The traditional custody arrangement in many divorce cases is for one parent
to have primary custody while the other parent gets the child every other weekend.
However, this arrangement doesn't work for every family. There are
several custody options available that deviate from this norm and may
be better suited to the specific needs and circumstances of the family.
As a seasoned, psychologically trained divorce attorney, mediator and custody
expert, I would like to share with you some other custody options that
just might work for you and your family!
Shared Physical Custody
Shared physical custody means that both parents have equal or near-equal
time with the child. This arrangement can vary in terms of the amount
of time each parent has with the child, but it typically involves the
child spending at least 35% of their time with each parent. This arrangement
can be difficult to manage if the parents live far apart or have different
schedules, but it can be a great option for families who want the child
to have frequent and meaningful contact with both parents.
Nesting custody, also known as bird nesting, is a custody arrangement where
the child remains in the family home while the parents take turns living
there. This option can be expensive because the parents have to maintain
two separate living spaces for themselves, but it can be a great option
for families who want to minimize disruption to the child's routine
and maintain stability.
Parallel parenting is a custody arrangement where the parents disengage
from each other as much as possible and focus on parenting their child
separately. This option can be a good choice for high-conflict families
who struggle to co-parent effectively. It allows each parent to have autonomy
over their parenting decisions and reduces the opportunity for conflict.
Split custody is a custody arrangement where each parent has primary custody
of at least one child. This option can be difficult for siblings because
they are separated from each other, but it can be a good choice for families
where the children have significantly different needs or preferences.
When it comes to your children there is no one-size-fits-all solution to
custody arrangements. Each family is unique, and the best custody option
will depend on the specific needs and circumstances of your family.
It's important for parents to work together to find a custody arrangement
that prioritizes the well-being of their child and allows both parents
to maintain a meaningful relationship with them.
If parents are unable to come to an agreement on their own, they may need
to seek the assistance of a mediator or family law attorney, like myself
to help you reach a custody agreement that works for everyone involved.
Mediators are often much better equipped to help divorced parents make
custody and visitation decisions. As a psychologically-trained divorce
attorney and mediator, I use psychology and legal skills to help parents
come to agreements that are in the best interests of everyone—without
spending tens of thousands of dollars and hopefully with the least emotional
pain. As a highly skilled medically trained mediator, I successfully help
divorcing parents make decisions without all of the hurtful emotion behind it.
I very often encourage my clients to strongly consider mediation to work
out their custody and visitation issues. It’s a smarter, compassionate
vehicle for all involved. There is no reason to add any more pain to the
division of a family.
Need help with custody and visitation?
As a psychologically trained family law attorney and mediator, I can guide
you through all the custody options available to you.
Mediation may just be the positive and powerful answer to your custody problems.
Why don’t you give mediation a try?
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I look forward to answering all your custody and visitation questions and
sharing all the impressive benefits of mediation with you!
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