Divorcing a narcissistic spouse can be challenging and emotionally taxing,
as they may engage in manipulative or deceitful behavior during the divorce process.
No one sets out to marry a narcissist. Their behavior charms you and sneaks
up on you. Don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed if you find yourself
the victim of a narcissist; you are not alone!
There are various healthy traits of narcissism in many of us, but then
there is the actual diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder.
As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely
skilled at identifying a narcissistic spouse in a marriage and guiding
the victimized spouse carefully to terminate a marriage.
From my psychological training I want to share with you some of the telltale
signs of Narcisisstic behavior:
Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and believe they
are superior to others.
Need for Admiration
Narcissists require excessive admiration and attention from others to feed
Lack of Empathy
Narcissists have difficulty understanding and caring about the feelings
A narcissist believes they are entitled to special treatment and expect
to be given preferential treatment.
Narcissists may take advantage of others for their own gain without remorse or guilt.
A narcissist often uses manipulation and deceit to get what they want.
Despite their self-importance, narcissists may have deep-seated insecurities
and fears of rejection or failure.
My 6 tips for skillfully divorcing a narcissist are as follows:
- Gather evidence: Document any instances of abuse, manipulation, or other
behavior that may be relevant;
- Seek legal counsel: Find an attorney/ mediator who specializes in divorce
and has experience dealing with narcissistic personalities (like me!);
- Plan ahead: Anticipate your spouse's potential tactics and have a plan
in place to counter them;
- Keep communication to a minimum: Limit your interactions with your spouse
as much as possible and have a support system in place to help you through
- Stay focused on your goals: Remember why you are divorcing and stay focused
on your end goals, such as securing custody of your children or protecting
- Seek therapy: Divorcing a narcissistic spouse can take a toll on your mental
health, so consider seeking therapy to help you process your feelings
and cope with the stress. I often provide this support to my clients with
the help of my gifted team of medical professionals.
If you are married to a narcissist, it’s time to consider moving on.
Life with a narcissist is usually abusive and definitely emotionally draining.
Taking the right steps, with the skilled guidance of a professional, is
imperative to safely remove yourself from this type of abusive relationship
A narcissist is a toxic, high-maintenance personality.
If I can help you navigate a path out of this type of marriage, let me know.
In my medical psychiatric training I have
dealt with many personality disorders,
including narcissism. I am familiar with the traits of a narcissist and
uniquely trained as both a medical professional and divorce attorney to
help you successfully and safely divorce the narcissist in your life.
FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are still available virtually.
Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to rid your life of a narcissist.
Schedule your free consultation right now!