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Are You Experiencing Divorce Depression?


Have you wondered why you feel so bad? Do you think your marriage and the thoughts of divorce are making you depressed?

Depression can make you feel tired and like you are living under a dark cloud. You have no interest in activities, feel stuck and have dark thoughts about yourself and others.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I hear from depressed spouses all the time. There are a lot of causes of depression but lack of power and abuse in a marriage can certainly cause depression. The thought of getting divorced can cause anxiety and make you feel depressed too! The fear of breaking up the family and what the future holds can be daunting.

Some signs of an unhappy marriage range from minimizing each other’s feelings, having no sex, feeling neglected and powerless, and no longer having any fun together.

When a toxic relationship develops in a marriage and a spouse starts to feel insecure, helpless, scared and anxious, the thought of divorce and dismantling the family can create depression too!

Here are 4 reasons your marriage and the idea of divorce is making you feel depressed:

1. Your partner tells you what to do.

Your spouse thinks he/she is your boss. Depression stems from feeling like you have insufficient power. Being told what to do by your spouse can make you feel like a slave. It makes you feel small and insignificant.

2. You feel dominated.

Depression happens when you feel smaller and less powerful than your spouse. Being dominated by your spouse can shatter your self-esteem. Being dominated takes your dignity and makes you feel powerless.

3. You feel criticized.

“I don’t like how you look in that dress.” “Your hair looks terrible.” Criticisms are put downs meant to diminish you. Constant criticisms make you start thinking something is wrong with you. You start to believe what you are being told. A brainwash moves over you.

4. You are abused.

Any form of abuse can cause depression. Abuse steals your soul and leaves you empty. A partner’s constant criticism, control and condescending comments wear you down slowly an kills your joy. This is no longer a loving relationship. It is a prison.

The thought of divorce and going into the unknown is very scary. What is a divorce going to do to the family? How will you survive financially? Even though you know you can no longer stay in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage, just the thought of divorce can be debilitating!

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can tell you if your marriage isn’t working. If you are sad, angry and the thought of divorce is making you feel scared and depressed, it’s time for a change!

If you need help making this change, call me. I can guide you on how to safely approach your spouse with the difficult conversation about divorce. It can be a lot easier than you think. I will be happy to share with you some of my truly successful methods.

Remember, starting over requires confidence, courage and determination.

I, along with my distinguished team of psychiatrists and therapists, can help you tackle the legal and psychological barriers to divorce.

All our highly informative 1-hour consultations are FREE!

All consultations and mediation sessions are discreetly and conveniently still available virtually!

I look forward to helping you and showing you the way to move safely out of depression and a healthier life!

Warm regards,


If you are depressed and need out of a destructive marriage, call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to schedule your free consultation. 212.734.1551