A gray divorce refers to the dissolution of a marriage between individuals
who are over the age of 50 or who have been married for a long time. It
is called "gray" divorce because it typically involves older
adults, and the term plays on the idea of gray hair representing aging.
Gray divorces have become more prevalent in recent years, and they come
with unique considerations and challenges compared to divorces that occur
at a younger age.
Divorce rates for couples over 50 have doubled in the past decade. These
divorces affect financial security issues due to the fewer remaining working
years of these couples.
Support for dependent spouses is a big issue. Developing a career later
in life is often not a viable option.
As a New York medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I see older
couples divorcing often these days.
A client of mine, Beth, had been a homemaker for 22 years, raising 2 children,
and working part-time from home making pottery, earning about $15,000
per year. Her husband was in banking earning a high six figure salary.
When Beth called me she was very concerned about how she was going to
meet her expenses after the divorce having only earned $15,000 per year
working from home.
As part of my divorce strategy, in order to supplement her spousal support,
we arranged for her husband to transfer more than the typical 50% of his
retirement assets to her. Since she was over 59 1/2, she did not have
to pay a penalty to withdraw and use this money. Since she had to pay
taxes on what she took out, we also arranged for her to receive extra
funds with which to pay the taxes on her share.
I prepared a Qualified Domestic Relations Order so this could be a tax-free
transfer to her. Another way for her to be protected was to have her husband
elect survivor's benefits. She was also eligible for Social Security
benefits based on her husband's earnings history, since they had been
married for more than 10 years.
The couple had other assets, including securities accounts and real estate.
After a long marriage, Beth was entitled to perhaps 50% of these assets.
Since the children were over 21, the couple did not have to deal with child
support or custody in their agreement. Her husband was already paying
for college and graduate school for the children.
Another client of mine was on disability, and we had to figure out how
she was going to pay her bills after the divorce. Her disability income
was tax free, but, after a long-term marriage, she was entitled to lifetime
"alimony." This is another example of the typical problems that
have to be handled when people divorce at the age of 50 or older.
It takes sophisticated legal advice to plan a late-life divorce. I sometimes
engage the assistance of my team of experts, which consists of trust and
estate attorneys, accountants, therapists,
and financial advisors, to make sure all issues are thoroughly addressed.
Beth was lucky because there were sufficient assets and income to provide
financial security for her, and her husband was astute enough to realize
that she was entitled to what she would receive and that it was better
to negotiate a settlement than go to court.
There are many other instances in which wealthy spouses try to hang on
to all of their money, which is why we hear about those cases so often
in the news.
It takes a divorce attorney with sophisticated knowledge to do the strategic
planning necessary to get the best possible results in this type of case.
With more than 35 years of experience as a divorce attorney and mediator,
I have the expertise to skillfully create a financially viable plan for
you and your family if you are considering a divorce at a later stage of life.
Don’t stay in a long term unhappy, unhealthy marriage that’s
just dragging on and on because you are afraid you won’t be able
to provide for yourself or your family. Call me, and let’s chat
about what is possible.
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I look forward to showing you that providing for your financial future
is possible! Let me show you!
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