Just the thought of divorce conjures up thoughts of sadness, confusion,
fear and so much more. Divorce is a very challenging and emotional experience
for any family, especially when children are involved.
As a medically trained divorce attorney/mediator for over 35 years, I can
tell you that in certain circumstances, divorce can actually be the best
decision for everyone, including the children.
In today’s blog post we will explore 10 reasons why divorce can sometimes
be the healthiest and most beneficial choice for your kids.
1. Eliminating Constant Conflict
When a marriage is filled with ongoing conflict and hostility, children
can suffer greatly. Witnessing arguments, tension, and even violence can
have a detrimental impact on their emotional health. Divorce can provide
an opportunity to remove children from this toxic environment and create
a more peaceful and stable home for them.
2. Improved Emotional Well-being
Divorce can allow both parents and children to focus on their emotional
healing and personal growth. By prioritizing their own well-being, parents
can better support and nurture their children's emotional needs, which
can lead to a healthier and happier family dynamic in the long run.
3. Better Co-Parenting Opportunities
Divorce can provide an opportunity for parents to establish a more effective
co-parenting relationship. When divorced parents commit to putting their
children's needs first, it can lead to better communication, collaboration,
and shared decision-making.
4. Decreased Exposure to Parental Conflict
Children caught in the middle of a contentious divorce can suffer from
loyalty conflicts and emotional turmoil. By divorcing, parents can shield
their children from being involved in the conflict and minimize the negative
impact it has on their development.
5. Role Modeling Healthy Relationships
Staying in an unhappy or abusive marriage can inadvertently teach children
that unhealthy relationships are the norm. By choosing divorce, parents
can demonstrate the importance of self-respect, healthy boundaries, and
the value of living a fulfilling life.
6. Enhanced Quality of Parent-Child Relationships
Divorce can give parents the opportunity to focus on building a deeper,
more meaningful relationship with their children. With the absence of
marital conflicts, parents can devote more time and attention to their
kids, resulting in stronger bonds and increased emotional support.
7. Increased Stability and Routine
Divorce often brings about significant changes, but it can also provide
an opportunity to establish a more stable and predictable routine for
children. With clearer schedules, consistent rules, and regularity in
their daily lives, children can thrive and feel more secure.
8. Personal Growth and Happiness
When parents are unhappy or unfulfilled in their marriage, it can impact
their ability to be fully present and engaged with their children. Divorce
can allow parents to pursue personal growth, find happiness, and be more
emotionally available to support their children's needs.
9. Reduced Exposure to Substance Abuse or Mental Health Issues
In some cases, divorce can protect children from being exposed to substance
abuse or mental health problems within the family. By removing them from
such environments, children can have a better chance of growing up in
a healthier and more stable setting.
10. Encouraging Independence and Resilience
Divorce can teach children important life skills such as adaptability,
resilience, and self-reliance. They learn to navigate through changes,
develop coping mechanisms, and become more independent individuals who
can handle challenging situations later in life.
By removing children from toxic environments, fostering healthier relationships,
and providing stability, divorce can pave the way for a brighter future.
As a psychologically trained divorce attorney/mediator for more than 35
years, I have helped thousands of families successfully move through the
If you find yourself thinking about divorce, if you have any questions
about your minor children while going through a divorce, please feel free
to call me at 212.734.1551, and I’ll be happy to advise you on how
to keep your children first!!
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Call me to explore, during a free informative consultation, what is possible!
I look forward to speaking with you.
Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to schedule your free consultation.
Remember, always make decisions in the best interest of your children.