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Items Frequently Fought Over in a Divorce!


Divorce can be a challenging and emotionally charged process, and one of the key aspects that often leads to disputes is the division of assets and liabilities.

While every divorce is unique and the specific items fought over can vary greatly depending on the circumstances and the couple involved, there are some common items that tend to be sources of contention.

As a divorce attorney/mediator it is my role to help clients make the best possible decisions when negotiating, mediating, or litigating for what they want.

If you are considering divorce, let me share with you a list of items that are frequently fought over in a divorce. Take some time and think about how you will want these to be handled in your divorce.

Family Home

The marital residence is often one of a couple’s most valuable assets, and deciding who gets to keep it or whether it should be sold can lead to significant disagreements.


Cars, motorcycles, boats, or any other vehicles owned by the couple may be subject to dispute over ownership or division of value.

Bank Accounts

Joint savings and checking accounts, as well as individual accounts, can be sources of contention during divorce proceedings.

Retirement Accounts

401(k) plans, pensions, IRAs, and other retirement savings accounts may need to be divided or shared.


Stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and other investment accounts are often subject to division or negotiation.

Business Interests

If either spouse owns a business, determining how to divide or value the business can be complex and contentious.

Real Estate

Besides the family home, other properties like vacation homes, rental properties, or undeveloped land may need to be divided or sold.

Household Items

Furniture, appliances, electronics, artwork, and other household possessions are often fought over, especially sentimental or valuable items.

Jewelry and Personal Belongings

Items with sentimental value, such as wedding rings, family heirlooms, or personal collections, can become points of dispute.


Determining custody or ownership of pets can be a highly emotional aspect of divorce proceedings.


Both joint and individual debts, such as mortgages, credit card debts, student loans, and other financial obligations, may need to be addressed and divided.

Child Custody and Support

While not tangible items, determining the custody and support arrangements for children can be a highly contentious issue.

Spousal Support/Alimony

Determining whether one spouse is entitled to receive support payments from the other and the amount can be a source of disagreement.

Insurance Policies

Health, life, and car insurance policies may need to be reevaluated and adjusted after divorce.

Intellectual Property

Intellectual property rights, such as copyrights, patents, or trademarks, may need to be assessed and divided.

Digital Assets

Digital media, online accounts, crypto currencies, and other digital assets can become subjects of dispute.

Inheritance and Gifts

If one spouse received inheritances or significant gifts during the marriage, they are usually considered separate property if they have not been comingled.

Professional Degrees and Licenses

A professional degree or license obtained during the marriage could be considered a marital asset and can be a point of contention.

Social Security Benefits

If a couple has been married for at least ten years, one spouse may be eligible for a portion of the other spouse's Social Security benefits.

Divorce may be new to you, but it’s not to me!

Having represented many thousands of people in divorce matters over the last 35 years as a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have the wisdom, strategy and skill you need to help you get what you want. Know what you are entitled to and to get the best possible results whether negotiating, mediating, or litigating!

I look forward to answering all your questions about divorce and getting you what you want.

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to schedule your consultation.

Call 212.734.1551