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Lois Brenner in The New York Times!


Take a look at my Letter to the Editor at The New York Times on Mediating Abusive Relationships.
You may find it interesting!

If you or someone you know is being abused I can show you how mediation can be helpful when dealing with abusive relationships. Please feel free to call me at 212-734-1551.

I look forward to helping you.

"Mediating Abusive Relationships" - published online (Health,, May 18):

To the Editor:

Re “How Abusive Relationships Take Root” (Health,, May 11):

As a divorce lawyer and a medically trained professional who specializes in psychologically infused mediation as a successful method to help abused women in divorce, I can testify that domestic violence ensnares women of all backgrounds and that psychological abuse and controlling behaviors are often the root cause of many divorces.

I tell my clients that abusers can’t be reformed. Dominance is slow and insidious. Abuse creates self-doubt, weakness, shame and at some point, out of disorientation and fear, a self-imposed prison.

The use of mediation in abusive divorce situations gives strength to the abused, provides a worthy opponent (mediator) for the abuser, and the opportunity to peel back the psychological layers of abuse in a supportive environment, helping the abused gain freedom.


The writer is the author of “Getting Your Share,” a divorce book for women.