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5 Warning Signs You Are In an Unhealthy Relationship!


As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can often spot the signs of an unhealthy relationship. My advice in some cases is to seek therapy. In other cases, I strongly suggest they consider divorce. After speaking with a spouse and evaluating the details, I will suggest mediation or litigation.

If you see yourself experiencing some of these warning signs, you need to know there are options. I hope this information will help you and give you the courage you may need to take the first step!

My 5 Top Warning Signs Are:

  1. You don’t get to be yourself

If you are constantly apologizing for who you are, you are not with the right person. Constant criticism of another person wears on the fabric of their self-esteem. Healthy partnership is about building each other up, not breaking each other down.

  1. Control

If your partner tries to control everything you do, where you go, how you spend money, who your friends are, monitoring your emails, trolling your social media, this is not love. This is control. Take notice!

  1. Lies

If you cannot rely on the truth from your partner, you have a real problem. This might seem somewhat obvious, but it isn’t always. Liars are not to be trusted. You are not in a safe and balanced relationship when your partner is wearing a veil of deceit. You could get hurt.

  1. Your family and friends don’t like your partner

If your loved ones don’t like your partner, start listening! If friends and family start to distance themselves because of how uncomfortable they feel around your partner, you are about to become isolated. This isolation lends to your partner having more control. This has all the earmarks of abuse. Pay attention!

  1. You feel better when your partner is not around

In a healthy relationship we enjoy the company of our partner. We can’t wait to spend time with them. If you feel better when your partner is away from you, something is wrong! It’s never too late to end an unhealthy or toxic marriage. You, and your family, deserve better!

If you need help taking that first step, call me. I will skillfully take you through a divorce process that will make you feel safe and confident. Having an attorney/mediator/advocate can help you move out of a marriage that is not serving you well.

For over 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been guiding spouses successfully to find the right path to divorce. I can help you too!

Our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are very informative and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk!

I look forward to speaking with you.

Continue to stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


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