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Are You Married to a Psychopath?


As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I meet all kinds of people in tumultuous marriages suffering from various forms of mental illness. Many spouses don’t realize mental health issues are destroying the fabric of their marriage.

Spouses often speak with me and often describe their partner’s unusual behaviors that are difficult to live with or understand. Identifying a psychopath is not easy.

They are usually manipulative and can appear perfectly normal. They skillfully keep up a superficial charm that easily fools people. Sometimes a spouse will feel as though they are losing their mind or something is wrong with them. It turns out they are usually in the grips of their spouse’s psychopathic world.

If you are unhappy, confused and wondering if you are married to a psychopath, here are a few of the signs to look for:

  1. Pathological lying;
  2. Glib and superficial charm;
  3. Lack of empathy;
  4. Failure to accept responsibility;
  5. Manipulative behavior;
  6. Lack of remorse or guilt;
  7. Parasitic lifestyle.

In my divorce practice over 35 years, I have seen many people married to psychopaths (or psychopaths themselves). My medical training helps me identify these traits in spouses and provide targeted psychological/legal guidance. As we peel back the layers during my unique divorce mediation process, a partner gets an “aha” moment and suddenly everything seems to fit into place. It finally all makes sense.

Being married to a psychopath can be very difficult. What spouses don’t realize is you usually cannot change someone’s character. The healthiest and best way to handle them is to consider working with a divorce attorney with a psychological training like me. My unique divorce meditation method provides a supportive path for both parties. Obtaining the proper tools to prepare you to leave and to approach your divorce is critical. You need a legal/medical professional like me to guide you, understand the issues you are encountering, prepare you and champion your efforts.

If you fear you are married to a psychopath, call me. As a medically-trained attorney I can help you navigate this difficult process and get the best, safest results for yourself and your family.

Our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are very informative and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk!

I look forward to speaking with you.

Continue to Stay Healthy & Safe!

Warm regards,


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