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5 Signs You Are Being Bullied by Your Controlling Spouse!


During a recent phone consultation, I spoke with a woman in her late 30s who tearfully explained she had no control over her life. Her husband had multiple separate bank accounts and was cutting back on the monthly money he gave her as an allowance. She was a stay-at-home mom of 3 and her husband was a physician.

She further explained her name was on none of the accounts or homes they owned.

Her husband paid all the bills, which she never saw, and gave her money monthly for other necessities.

Although they file joint tax returns, he never lets her see the details of the returns, he just puts them in front of her and says, “sign.” She had no idea what he earned or anything about their finances or assets.

He insisted she give up her successful career as an art instructor 12 years ago when she gave birth to their first child.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I realized during the conversation that he was a controlling spouse and she had been forced to become a dependent spouse. She was going to need an attorney/mediator with a strong understanding of this type of spouse to get her the best possible outcome.

I assured her I would help her, and I am doing so. She was able to convince her husband to try mediation. Right now we are working on his disclosing assets and negotiating a fair settlement. So far the mediation process has worked well!

If you are in a marriage where you have lost your identity and voice, there is a way out. Don’t just sit there. Take action!

Here are 5 signs you have a controlling spouse:

  1. . You don’t have knowledge of financial information, including income;
  1. . You have separate bank accounts and savings;
  1. . You are encouraged to stop working;
  1. . You are discouraged from seeing your friends and family;
  1. . You are the object of disparaging and threatening comments.

If you are in a marriage that looks like this, I can help you.

My unique combination of legal and medical training is very effective when it comes to helping a spouse to gain freedom from a controlling spouse.

All our FREE CONSULTATIONS are conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.

Find the strength to move out of a controlling marriage! Don’t be bullied anymore! Call me, and I will help you!

I hope to hear from you!

Stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


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