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Thinking of Divorce? Don't Move Out!


As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I tell clients when thinking of divorce to never to leave their home. Making this move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized.

I often hear from clients that once divorce is in the air it is extremely difficult to live together. Especially these days with everyone still coasting through this pandemic, moving out and on is very appealing!

Who wants to smile over a mocha latte, and pretend everything is okay. But “thinking about divorce” is no reason to make a quick, rash decision and leave your home. This impulsive decision can greatly impact your divorce process and settlement.

Here are 5 Moving Out Rules to consider:

  1. If you move out, it can be considered abandonment if your spouse claims it was abandonment; seek guidance from an attorney/mediator before leaving the marital residence.
  1. Think about how the bills will be paid, both for the marital residence, as well as the new residence. Physical separation does not make you exempt from paying bills. Think before you move.
  1. If there is a physical threat of violence in your marriage, consider leaving the home and obtaining an order of protection; this legally documents the decision to leave the home was based on safety.
  1. If you are not sure if a separation will lead to a divorce consider having a separation agreement drafted and outline the living arrangements and the financial responsibilities of both.
  1. Consider mediation if moving out is really important; this process takes less time and moving out of the marital residence can be rationally discussed and planned in a mediation session.

Please make an informed decision before taking that step out of your front door. Leaving your home is a very important move that can have long-lasting ramifications. It’s important to be informed and prepared. Call me before you take that step!

As a divorce attorney/mediator for over 35 years, preparing clients properly and carefully for divorce is always my priority. Leaving the marital residence is just one important component of a complex, emotionally driven process.

Preparation for divorce is key. Making the right decisions will help you minimize legal complications and reduce emotional pain.

Mediation is one option for dissolving a marriage that is an amicable and less expensive way to divorce. But if mediation is not the right path for you, we can discuss the litigation process, and I can prepare you for battle, if necessary!

All FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are very informative and conducted virtually to reduce risk.

Call now to book your free consultation. Let’s talk about the details and the best path for you! 212.734.1551

I look forward to working with you!

Stay healthy and safe!!

Warm regards,


Call New York divorce lawyer and mediator Lois Brenner today for your free consultation! 212.734.1552