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Divorce and Taxes!


Tax time is right around the corner!

For those getting a divorce, taxes are the least of their worries, but taxes and divorce are not always as straight forward as one might think.

As a divorce attorney and mediator, I have heard and handled many divorce and tax horror stories. Let me share a story with you that will open your eyes, and make you think twice.

After researching and finding me on Avvo, a young woman contacted me last year. She was a married professional with three young children.

She was confused, angry, and scared. She had just received an email from her employer who notified her that her salary was being garnished by the IRS. She was stunned! What could this be about? She signed those yearly joint tax returns and her husband always paid the taxes owed. Or so she thought…

Upon investigation, and speaking with the IRS, we learned that her husband had not paid their taxes for 6 years and owed $ 300,000.00. The wife felt betrayed and angry that her “loving husband” of 12 years had been lying to her and jeopardizing her and her family.

When he agreed to participate in a mediation session, using my psychologically-infused mediation method, I identified that not only was he clearly a narcissist and a sociopath, with no regard for others, but he also had a deep-routed gambling problem that dated back to his teens.

He had been living a double life (including having another family in another state, which was uncovered as we reviewed emails, texts, and social media interactions) and his wife never knew it.

Although he begged her to stay married, his wife was devastated and could not, and did not stay in this sham of a marriage.

We were able to clear her with the IRS as an “innocent spouse”, and help her avoid prosecution with the help of our team’s tax experts, and we made him responsible for the debts to the IRS.

In addition, the wife got sole custody, child support and possession of the marital residence.

For her, most importantly, she got piece of mind and she got her life back. She was no longer living a lie.

It’s important to always know what your spouse is doing. Read everything you sign and be aware that “you are responsible for you.” Don’t put your life in the hands of anyone. Not even someone you think is a “loving spouse.”

If you suspect your loved one may not be handing the financial responsibilities of your marriage properly and there may be trouble with the IRS, call me. I, along with my forensic team have expertise in this area and we can help you.

This tax season don’t just sign the tax returns. Read them and know what you are signing. Ask questions and don’t just blindly put your life in the hands of your spouse.

All our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS areconveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.

I look forward to speaking with you.

Stay healthy AND safe!

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer, Lois Brenner now to schedule your free consultation. 212.734.1551