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How to Divorce a Mentally Unstable Spouse!


Carefully and thoughtfully! That’s always my advice!

As a divorce attorney and medically trained professional, I work with spouses all the time in relationships who are married to spouses who are mentally unstable and sometimes abusive. These are painful marriages filled with sadness, anger, turmoil and sometimes fear.

We see all kinds of people today suffering with mental health issues in the news, but what is not often discussed is how many marriages are suffering deeply and eroding from the effects of mental health problems.

I have worked with countless frightened spouses, abused wives, and distraught, confused husbands. Mental health issues in marriages have been on the rise and destroying couples and families, especially in the past few years.

Divorce is about people, their psychology and the emotional health of a couple. The traditional divorce system is an adversarial, lengthy, and costly process which completely ignores the psychological component of divorce and is far more interested in conflict and cost.

During over 35 years of practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically-trained medical professional, and court-appointed mediator, I have heard the cries of many spouses and developed a psychologically-based divorce process that is highly effective, whether litigating or mediating, and most importantly, healing.

My divorce method involves behavior modification, the use of psychology - identifying personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics, and skillfully applying the law to develop strategies tailored to each case for a more productive and positive experience.

My approach is less adversarial, less expensive, and less time-consuming than the traditional system.

I engage couples in a productive discussion and effective decision-making, which leads to healthier, more positive outcomes.

Unlike the standard divorce approach, this method takes into consideration the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that affect divorcing couples, and which, if properly identified, can be used to leverage a more successful and calmer outcome.

My process addresses the pervasive presence of mental health issues that often result in verbal abuse in its many hidden forms which include:

  • Criticizing
  • Hiding finances
  • Blaming
  • Controlling
  • Threatening
  • Denial
  • Insulting
  • Withholding
  • Ignoring
  • Gas lighting
  • Separating from friends and family
  • Verbal abuse disguised as joke

Most attorneys treat divorce as a purely legal (and adversarial) experience. I don’t!

Divorce is not based solely on the law. It’s about people! That includes the psychological make-up of both you and your spouse.

I know taking this step won’t be easy, but gaining your freedom and happiness will be worth it.

Since I am more than a divorce attorney, but also a medical professional, I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological and legal guidance necessary to remove yourself safely from the grip of a mentally unhealthy marriage. Call me now to find out more…

All our Free 1 Hour Consultations are discreetly and conveniently available virtually.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Warm regards,


Don’t stay in a mentally unhealthy or abusive marriage.

New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner is available right now for a FREE consultation.

Call 212.734.1551.