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Did You Get Served for Divorce Over the Thanksgiving Holiday?


If you got served over the Thanksgiving weekend for a divorce, I can help!

One of my clients was served for divorce last year over the Thanksgiving holiday. He couldn’t believe it. He called me on Saturday of the holiday weekend and told me he had been served the day before. They had just been with family and enjoying turkey on Thursday. He was sad, shocked and a little angry too! He never saw it coming!

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator for over 35 years, I immediately explained what he needed to do.

First, I told him that he had been formally put on notice that his spouse had filed a petition for divorce. We then discussed the summons to see what his spouse was asking for, like spousal support, child support, distribution of assets and so on.

I also explained when you are properly served, a (clock) starts ticking in court. In every state, there is a limit to the amount of time you have to file an answer to your spouse's divorce summons. The number of days you have varies from state to state. However, in every state, the countdown begins the day you are served with your divorce papers. In New York State it is 20 or 30 days.

I also told him not to be afraid. I am here to help and there are a few ways we can respond. He did retain me and my divorce team and we successfully moved him through his divorce and got his a fair settlement.

My role as a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator is to be legally informative and emotionally supportive in a sad and difficult time. My role is to pave the path to productive discussions amidst a flurry of very high emotions and to help a spouse make the right decisions.

If you have been served with a summons over the Thanksgiving holiday, I suggest you do the following:

  1. Speak with a divorce attorney/mediator. Find out what your rights are, and what you are entitled to;
  1. Consider mediation – if your spouse will back down from litigation. Mediation is less stressful, not adversarial, more manageable, amicable, cost effective and less time consuming;
  1. Acknowledge your emotions! They will range from tears, to anger, to wanting revenge. It’s okay to feel sad and hurt!;
  1. Don’t try to hold on to someone who wants out. You don’t need to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. You deserve much better!;
  1. Hire a divorce attorney/mediator who feels right to you. Someone you connect with and who will guide, support and fight for you and your family!

Struggling relationships often end in divorce because the couple has stopped trying and drifted apart. Often there are differing personality and character issues affecting the marriage.

When a spouse decides to end a marriage, they have often made this decision in response to a breakdown in communication, their needs not being met, abuse, or simply not wanting to be married any longer.

If you get served with a summons, call me!

I, along with my litigation partner and team of experts, will be happy to speak with you and walk you through the divorce process.

Having successfully served NYC for more than 35 years as an experienced New York divorce attorney and medically trained mediator, I can tell you that having the most skilled legal support will give you the best results.

Call me to schedule your free consultation. 212.734.1551.

All our FREE CONSULTATIONS are discreetly and conveniently conducted virtually.

Warm regards,


New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner is available to help you with your divorce!

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