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Learn About Custody Options Where the Norm Doesn't Have to Be Every Other Weekend!


The traditional custody arrangement in many divorce cases is for one parent to have primary custody while the other parent gets the child every other weekend.

However, this arrangement doesn't work for every family. There are several custody options available that deviate from this norm and may be better suited to the specific needs and circumstances of the family.

As a seasoned, psychologically trained divorce attorney, mediator and custody expert, I would like to share with you some other custody options that just might work for you and your family!

Shared Physical Custody

Shared physical custody means that both parents have equal or near-equal time with the child. This arrangement can vary in terms of the amount of time each parent has with the child, but it typically involves the child spending at least 35% of their time with each parent. This arrangement can be difficult to manage if the parents live far apart or have different schedules, but it can be a great option for families who want the child to have frequent and meaningful contact with both parents.

Nesting Custody

Nesting custody, also known as bird nesting, is a custody arrangement where the child remains in the family home while the parents take turns living there. This option can be expensive because the parents have to maintain two separate living spaces for themselves, but it can be a great option for families who want to minimize disruption to the child's routine and maintain stability.

Parallel Parenting

Parallel parenting is a custody arrangement where the parents disengage from each other as much as possible and focus on parenting their child separately. This option can be a good choice for high-conflict families who struggle to co-parent effectively. It allows each parent to have autonomy over their parenting decisions and reduces the opportunity for conflict.

Split Custody

Split custody is a custody arrangement where each parent has primary custody of at least one child. This option can be difficult for siblings because they are separated from each other, but it can be a good choice for families where the children have significantly different needs or preferences.

When it comes to your children there is no one-size-fits-all solution to custody arrangements. Each family is unique, and the best custody option will depend on the specific needs and circumstances of your family.

It's important for parents to work together to find a custody arrangement that prioritizes the well-being of their child and allows both parents to maintain a meaningful relationship with them.

If parents are unable to come to an agreement on their own, they may need to seek the assistance of a mediator or family law attorney, like myself to help you reach a custody agreement that works for everyone involved.

Mediators are often much better equipped to help divorced parents make custody and visitation decisions. As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I use psychology and legal skills to help parents come to agreements that are in the best interests of everyone—without spending tens of thousands of dollars and hopefully with the least emotional pain. As a highly skilled medically trained mediator, I successfully help divorcing parents make decisions without all of the hurtful emotion behind it.

I very often encourage my clients to strongly consider mediation to work out their custody and visitation issues. It’s a smarter, compassionate vehicle for all involved. There is no reason to add any more pain to the division of a family.

Need help with custody and visitation?

As a psychologically trained family law attorney and mediator, I can guide you through all the custody options available to you.

Mediation may just be the positive and powerful answer to your custody problems.

Why don’t you give mediation a try?

I am offering Free 1 hour consultations. Why not join me to learn more…

All our FREE I HOUR CONSULTATIONS arestill available conducted virtually.

I look forward to answering all your custody and visitation questions and sharing all the impressive benefits of mediation with you!

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to ask all your custody and visitation questions!

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