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6 Tips to Skillfully Divorce a Narcissist!


Divorcing a narcissistic spouse can be challenging and emotionally taxing, as they may engage in manipulative or deceitful behavior during the divorce process.

No one sets out to marry a narcissist. Their behavior charms you and sneaks up on you. Don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed if you find yourself the victim of a narcissist; you are not alone!

There are various healthy traits of narcissism in many of us, but then there is the actual diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely skilled at identifying a narcissistic spouse in a marriage and guiding the victimized spouse carefully to terminate a marriage.

From my psychological training I want to share with you some of the telltale signs of Narcisisstic behavior:


Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and believe they are superior to others.

Need for Admiration

Narcissists require excessive admiration and attention from others to feed their ego.

Lack of Empathy

Narcissists have difficulty understanding and caring about the feelings of others.


A narcissist believes they are entitled to special treatment and expect to be given preferential treatment.

Exploitative Behavior

Narcissists may take advantage of others for their own gain without remorse or guilt.

Manipulative Behavior

A narcissist often uses manipulation and deceit to get what they want.


Despite their self-importance, narcissists may have deep-seated insecurities and fears of rejection or failure.

My 6 tips for skillfully divorcing a narcissist are as follows:

  1. Gather evidence: Document any instances of abuse, manipulation, or other behavior that may be relevant;
  1. Seek legal counsel: Find an attorney/ mediator who specializes in divorce and has experience dealing with narcissistic personalities (like me!);
  1. Plan ahead: Anticipate your spouse's potential tactics and have a plan in place to counter them;
  1. Keep communication to a minimum: Limit your interactions with your spouse as much as possible and have a support system in place to help you through the process;
  1. Stay focused on your goals: Remember why you are divorcing and stay focused on your end goals, such as securing custody of your children or protecting your assets;
  1. Seek therapy: Divorcing a narcissistic spouse can take a toll on your mental health, so consider seeking therapy to help you process your feelings and cope with the stress. I often provide this support to my clients with the help of my gifted team of medical professionals.

If you are married to a narcissist, it’s time to consider moving on.

Life with a narcissist is usually abusive and definitely emotionally draining.

Taking the right steps, with the skilled guidance of a professional, is imperative to safely remove yourself from this type of abusive relationship and marriage.

A narcissist is a toxic, high-maintenance personality.

If I can help you navigate a path out of this type of marriage, let me know.

In my medical psychiatric training I have

dealt with many personality disorders,

including narcissism. I am familiar with the traits of a narcissist and uniquely trained as both a medical professional and divorce attorney to help you successfully and safely divorce the narcissist in your life.

All our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are still available virtually.

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to rid your life of a narcissist.

Schedule your free consultation right now!

Call 212.734.1551