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10 Reasons Why Divorce May Be in the Best Interest of Your Children


Just the thought of divorce conjures up thoughts of sadness, confusion, fear and so much more. Divorce is a very challenging and emotional experience for any family, especially when children are involved.

As a medically trained divorce attorney/mediator for over 35 years, I can tell you that in certain circumstances, divorce can actually be the best decision for everyone, including the children.

In today’s blog post we will explore 10 reasons why divorce can sometimes be the healthiest and most beneficial choice for your kids.

1. Eliminating Constant Conflict

When a marriage is filled with ongoing conflict and hostility, children can suffer greatly. Witnessing arguments, tension, and even violence can have a detrimental impact on their emotional health. Divorce can provide an opportunity to remove children from this toxic environment and create a more peaceful and stable home for them.

2. Improved Emotional Well-being

Divorce can allow both parents and children to focus on their emotional healing and personal growth. By prioritizing their own well-being, parents can better support and nurture their children's emotional needs, which can lead to a healthier and happier family dynamic in the long run.

3. Better Co-Parenting Opportunities

Divorce can provide an opportunity for parents to establish a more effective co-parenting relationship. When divorced parents commit to putting their children's needs first, it can lead to better communication, collaboration, and shared decision-making.

4. Decreased Exposure to Parental Conflict

Children caught in the middle of a contentious divorce can suffer from loyalty conflicts and emotional turmoil. By divorcing, parents can shield their children from being involved in the conflict and minimize the negative impact it has on their development.

5. Role Modeling Healthy Relationships

Staying in an unhappy or abusive marriage can inadvertently teach children that unhealthy relationships are the norm. By choosing divorce, parents can demonstrate the importance of self-respect, healthy boundaries, and the value of living a fulfilling life.

6. Enhanced Quality of Parent-Child Relationships

Divorce can give parents the opportunity to focus on building a deeper, more meaningful relationship with their children. With the absence of marital conflicts, parents can devote more time and attention to their kids, resulting in stronger bonds and increased emotional support.

7. Increased Stability and Routine

Divorce often brings about significant changes, but it can also provide an opportunity to establish a more stable and predictable routine for children. With clearer schedules, consistent rules, and regularity in their daily lives, children can thrive and feel more secure.

8. Personal Growth and Happiness

When parents are unhappy or unfulfilled in their marriage, it can impact their ability to be fully present and engaged with their children. Divorce can allow parents to pursue personal growth, find happiness, and be more emotionally available to support their children's needs.

9. Reduced Exposure to Substance Abuse or Mental Health Issues

In some cases, divorce can protect children from being exposed to substance abuse or mental health problems within the family. By removing them from such environments, children can have a better chance of growing up in a healthier and more stable setting.

10. Encouraging Independence and Resilience

Divorce can teach children important life skills such as adaptability, resilience, and self-reliance. They learn to navigate through changes, develop coping mechanisms, and become more independent individuals who can handle challenging situations later in life.

By removing children from toxic environments, fostering healthier relationships, and providing stability, divorce can pave the way for a brighter future.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney/mediator for more than 35 years, I have helped thousands of families successfully move through the divorce process.

If you find yourself thinking about divorce, if you have any questions about your minor children while going through a divorce, please feel free to call me at 212.734.1551, and I’ll be happy to advise you on how to keep your children first!!

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Call me to explore, during a free informative consultation, what is possible!

I look forward to speaking with you.

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to schedule your free consultation. 212.734.1551

Remember, always make decisions in the best interest of your children.