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A Postnuptial Agreement May Be the Band Aid You Need to Save Your Marriage!


Getting married is so very exciting! June is here and it is that time of year when brides are eagerly gearing up for their weddings and all the glitz, glamour, and drama that a wedding brings.

But what about the day after the wedding? Are you truly prepared for the marriage? Many couples find that once married there are some important issues that weren’t discussed prior to walking down the aisle.

Marriage is a beautiful union, but it's not without its challenges. As couples navigate the complexities of life together, unexpected circumstances or changing dynamics can strain even the strongest relationships. While many view prenuptial agreements as a practical solution for protecting assets in the event of divorce, I suggest using a postnuptial agreement as a productive tool to save marriages.

Postnuptial agreements came into acceptance in the U.S. in the later portion of the 20th century. It was in the 1970s that postnuptial agreements were met with wide acceptance motivated by what many think was the increase in divorce during that decade.

So what’s a postnuptial agreement?

A postnuptial agreement is a written contract executed after a couple gets married or has entered into a civil union. The purpose of this contract is to address and settle a couple’s affairs in the event of a separation or divorce.

As a psychologically trained family law attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I have developed a strategic and effective use for postnuptial agreements.

When a couple is unhappy but not quite ready for a separation or divorce, I often suggest they use a postnuptial agreement as a vehicle to get their marriage back on track and in some cases save a marriage.

My role as a divorce attorney/mediator is not always to help end a marriage, but on many occasions to help save a marriage. A marriage can be saved whenever reasonably possible!

When crafting a postnuptial agreement for the purpose of saving a marriage or eventually ending a marriage, I suggest we look at the following:

  • Assets, liabilities, and income.
  • Expectations of gifts and inheritances.
  • The status of gifts, inheritances, and trusts either spouse receives or benefits from, whether before or after marriage.
  • How post-marital debts will be paid.
  • Decide who, or if both of you, will own or occupy the marital residence and secondary homes in the event of death or divorce
  • What will happen to your marital property in the event of death or divorce.
  • What will happen to property-real estate, jewelry, artwork, antiques, etc.
  • Alimony, maintenance, spousal support, child support, custody and visitation.
  • Death benefits—what you will provide for in your will.

To learn more about postnuptial agreements and how they may save your marriage, call me.

Let me help you save your marriage! As a seasoned family law attorney/mediator for more than 35 years, I have crafted many postnuptial agreements designed to save marriages.

A postnuptial agreement is a unique tool to satisfy/soothe issues currently impacting the marriage and to help keep the marriage on track. It is also a really smart preparation tool if the marriage fails and a divorce follows.

Are you looking for a way to save your marriage? Call me to explore how a postnuptial agreement can work for you!

I look forward to speaking with you.

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to learn more about postnuptial agreements! Schedule your free consultation right now!