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Top 10 Reasons Why It Is Not a Good Idea to Do Your Own Divorce!


Divorce can be a daunting and emotionally charged process. Many people consider handling their own divorce to save money or maintain control over the proceedings. However, attempting a do-it-yourself (DIY) divorce may not be the smartest decision for everyone.

As a seasoned divorce attorney/mediator for more than 35 years, I have seen many spouses make big mistakes while tackling a DIY divorce.

Here are my 10 reasons why doing your own divorce may not be a good idea.

1. Lack of Legal Expertise

Divorce laws can vary significantly depending on the jurisdiction. Without a deep understanding of these laws and the legal processes involved, you may find yourself making costly mistakes or overlooking crucial aspects of your case. There is also certain legal language required by the court when drafting documents. A lawyer/ mediator will know exactly what needs to be written in your agreement and divorce papers. An experienced divorce attorney/mediator can provide valuable guidance and ensure that your rights and interests are protected.

2. Emotional Stress

Divorce is emotionally challenging for most people. Handling your own divorce can intensify the stress as you deal with complex legal procedures, paperwork, and negotiations. Having a compassionate divorce attorney/mediator who can act as a buffer between you and your spouse can alleviate emotional strain and allow you to focus on healing and moving forward.

3. Complex Financial Issues

Divorces often involve intricate financial matters, such as property division, spousal support, child support, and retirement accounts. Evaluating the true value of assets, assessing tax implications, and determining an equitable distribution requires a thorough understanding of financial complexities. A skilled divorce attorney/mediator can help navigate these intricate matters to ensure a fair settlement.

4. Overlooking Important Details

Divorce involves a multitude of paperwork, deadlines, and legal procedures. Failure to adhere to these requirements can result in significant delays or even dismissal of your case. Attorneys are well versed in the necessary documentation, court filings, and legal protocols, reducing the chances of crucial details being overlooked.

5. Potential Communication Challenges

If there is a high level of conflict between you and your spouse, attempting a DIY divorce can further strain communication and exacerbate disputes. A divorce attorney/mediator can serve as a neutral intermediary, effectively communicating with your spouse's attorney and working towards a resolution that protects your interests while maintaining a level of professionalism.

6. Incomplete or Inaccurate Information

Divorce requires comprehensive disclosure of financial information and assets. Without legal guidance, there is a risk of unintentionally providing incomplete or inaccurate information. This can lead to an unfair settlement or legal consequences. An attorney/mediator can help ensure that all relevant financial details are disclosed properly, preventing future complications.

7. Inadequate Child Custody and Support Agreements

If you have children, determining custody arrangements and child support can be highly complex. An attorney/mediator can help negotiate a parenting plan that protects the best interests of your children and ensures fair child support arrangements. They can also anticipate future contingencies and draft agreements that account for potential changes in circumstances.

8. Limited Access to Resources

Divorce attorneys/mediators have access to a network of professionals who can provide valuable assistance during the process. They may work with financial advisors, forensic accountants, appraisers, and other experts who can offer critical insights. Access to these resources can be invaluable in securing a favorable outcome.

9. Legal Protection and Advocacy

Having an attorney/mediator on your side ensures that you have someone advocating for your rights and protecting your interests throughout the divorce proceedings. They can anticipate legal pitfalls, negotiate on your behalf, and provide objective advice, all while striving to achieve the best possible outcome for you.

10. Long-Term Consequences

Divorce settlements have long-lasting implications for your financial security, child custody, and overall well-being. Making uninformed decisions or accepting unfavorable terms can have significant ramifications in the future. A divorce attorney's experience and knowledge can help safeguard your future and ensure that you are not left in a disadvantageous position.

If you are stuck in a bad marriage, married to someone who is a narcissist, bipolar, borderline, sociopath, depressive, anxious, paranoid, alcoholic, abusive or controlling, don’t tackle your divorce on your own!

A DIY divorce will not work for you! You need the expertise and guidance of a skilled divorce attorney/mediator like myself with the legal know how and psychological savvy to get you the best results!

Unlike other divorce attorneys, I am a medically-trained divorce attorney and mediator who has developed a powerful psychologically based divorce process that is highly successful whether negotiating, mediating, or litigating.

My all-inclusive divorce process includes mediators, litigators, psychologists, psychiatrists, divorce counselors, financial advisors, private investigators and even a wellness package to help you feel better as you go through your divorce.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking you can walk any divorce path alone! We will be with you every step of the way with strategic advice and compassionate support!

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