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3 Tips for Managing Divorce Anxiety


Yes, divorce anxiety is a real thing! Divorce conjures up all kinds of stress, and fear!

As a psychologically-trained medical professional and divorce attorney, I can spot divorce anxiety right away.

I often see the symptoms before my clients do.

Why wouldn’t divorce be stressful? There are so many negative emotions that arise once divorce is on the table.

The decision to divorce is a big life change. Divorce is fueled by sadness, anger, fear, and confusion. This is especially true if you have been married to your partner for many years.

My psychological training and legal experience give me a unique insight into the inner emotional workings of a divorcing couple.

Most divorce attorneys’ education and training is to address only the “legal” part of the divorce process. The legal system does not encourage divorce attorneys to address the emotional component of divorce.

If all else has failed and you must divorce, don’t be afraid. As a divorce attorney/mediator I can provide support, guidance and give you the strength to start the divorce process.

While getting the best possible legal results for my clients is first and foremost, helping clients maintain a healthy, balanced and less stressful divorce journey is equally as important.

Here are 3 Tips for Managing Divorce Anxiety:

  1. Preparation:

There is a lot of planning that goes into a divorce. You’re thinking, soul-searching, researching, and making decisions. In addition to selecting the right divorce attorney, couples should also consider working with a therapist. I find having some of my couples work with a skilled psychologist, social worker or psychiatrist helps tremendously with the divorce process.

Additional emotional support is a great prescription for navigating the highs and lows of divorce. Therapy can be particularly helpful if one party is resistant to the divorce.

  1. Focus:

If you have children, focus on them. They are going to need all the support you can give them. Spend quality time with them. Depending on their age, explain some of what’s going on, in an age-appropriate manner, but not all of it. Remember, they are children. They need to feel safe, secure and loved by both parents. Don’t speak negatively about your spouse, tempting though this may be, to your child. Save that for your therapy sessions.

  1. Support:

In addition to the skilled representation of a divorce attorney, and emotional guidance and support of a therapist, surround yourself with family and friends virtually.

The love and support of family and friends is the best divorce medicine. When someone is going through a divorce it is very common to become isolated. This isolation often leads to depression. Don’t isolate yourself!

I know it feels like the easy way out, but it’s also the unhealthy way out. It’s time to stay strong, and be supported. It’s not a time to be alone. It’s important for you to give yourself this gift. Treat yourself well.

You still have to come out on the other side as a whole person. Online support groups can be a great outlet as well. Speaking with others going through a divorce can help you feel a lot less alone. You may even make some wonderful new friends.

If you need help with your divorce anxiety, I would be happy to show you how to handle your divorce so you have support, guidance and a healthy outcome!

Let me help reduce your anxiety! Call me today!

Our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are very informative and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk!

I look forward to speaking with you.

Continue to Stay Healthy & Safe!

Warm regards,


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