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What to Do When Your Husband Wants a Divorce!


It is not unusual for a wife to all of a sudden hear from her husband that he wants a divorce.

There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision; another woman, a midlife crisis; and sometimes financial difficulties.

Struggling relationships often end in divorce because the couple has stopped trying, and drifted apart. Feelings are ignored and more often than not, one spouse wants to stay, while the other spouse wants to go. They have become disconnected emotionally and physically.

Every person who is contemplating divorce struggles with the question of whether or not divorce is the right decision.

I tell couples to talk about divorce in detail before ending their marriage.

When a husband decides to end a marriage they have often made this decision in response to their needs not being met, a breakdown in communication, or simply not wanting to be married any longer.

Once a couple have had this conversation, It’s very important to get the proper guidance.

My role as a divorce attorney and mediator is to be a supportive ally in a difficult transition. I can pave the path to productive discussions amidst a flurry of very high emotions.

  1. Speak with a divorce attorney/mediator. Find out what your rights are, and what you are entitled to;
  1. Consider mediation. Mediation is less stressful, more manageable, amicable, cost-effective and less time consuming;
  1. Don’t rehash the past or obsess on having to know “Why”. Divorce is about moving forward with knowledge and dignity. Knowing “why” will not make the process any easier;
  1. Manage your emotions! They will range from sadness to anger, to wanting revenge. It’s okay to feel all those emotions.
  1. Don’t try to hold on to someone who wants out, even though it’s scarey. You don’t need to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t want you. You deserve much better!
  1. Start pulling together the important information you will need:tax documents, investment statements, W-2’s, property deeds, life insurance policies, and pensions.
  1. BREATHE! This is going to be a challenging process. Reach out to family and friends for support. Consider seeing a therapist, and don’t be afraid to ask for help

Don’t be afraid!I know you must be surprised to hear your spouse wants a divorce, but you are not alone, and I’m here to help.

I would be happy to speak with you alone or with you and your spouse to explain the many benefits of mediation.

Mediation is a family-friendly approach to divorce.Remember, divorce doesn’t have to be excruciatingly painful.

Having served NYC for over 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, I can tell you a divorce with dignity is possible. Mediation is the answer. Call me now to find out all the details

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I look forward to speaking with you.

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Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer, Lois Brenner now to book your free consultation. 212.734.1551