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7 Signs Your Spouse May Be Cheating!


Do you lie awake at night and wonder? Do you have a feeling in the pit of your stomach most of the time? You know something is not quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it. Do you think your spouse is cheating? Are you afraid to ask? Do you think you need proof?

I say, pay attention to those little voices and your spouse’s texts, phone call and emails. Your instinct could be right!

In my divorce/mediation practice of more than 35 years, I have seen cheating spouses more than I’d like to admit. I am hearing a lot of cheating stories from couples especially during this never-ending pandemic.

Spouses are unhappy and finding outlets for reaching out and meeting others virtually. Inevitably, a cheating spouse wounds not only their spouse, but an entire family.

Don’t bury your head in the sand, if the signs are there, take notice. You’re probably right. Don’t ignore your suspicions.

Here are 7 telltale signs your spouse may be cheating on you.

Do You Feel…

1. Rejected sexually;

2. Your feelings are ignored;

3. Your spouse needs more privacy;

4. Your spouse is spending a lot more time on the computer;

5. Your spouse is always changing and hiding computer passwords;

6. Your spouse is being financially irresponsible or frivolous;

7.Your spouse is hiding credit card statements, cell phone, personal information, etc.

If you find yourself experiencing some of these things, you are also coming up with excuses for this behavior. That’s being human. It’s hard to admit to oneself that your partner may be dishonest with you.

I find intuition is often one of the best indicators that something is wrong. Further investigation is probably necessary. Once you have reviewed all the behavior changes and collected some data, think about doing some investigative work by hiring a professional to look further. Be calm, strong and honest with yourself. Be prepared for any outcome. Remember, if your spouse is cheating, also be prepared for lots of lies!

For some, saving a marriage is possible. Although trust has been broken and betrayal is painful, some marriages can survive.

From what I have seen when a marriage does survive it is because the couple has a strong foundation based on friendship and love. I applaud these couples for their strength to recover.

For others, clearly the marriage is over. Now you have to start the painful journey of divorce. Or at least that is what most couples think based upon the traditional view of divorce.

But divorce doesn’t always have to be adversarial. Divorce can be dignified. I encourage all of my couples to consider a divorce that is less painful, more rational, not anger-driven and more supportive of the overall well-being of the family.

Years ago I developed a dignified divorce mediation process to address divorce positively. This method keeps a couple on track, promotes constructive discussion, provides emotional support, lends a voice of reason to conversations, and concludes in a fair settlement agreement.

My unique process takes less time, costs less money and is less painful.

If you are experiencing any, or all of the above, please call me to go over your situation and to discuss your concerns.

If you are moving towards divorce due to infidelity, I can help you navigate the process with strong psychological support and fair, strategic legal planning to keep your life intact and to help get you and your family the best possible results.

As a psychologically-trained and experienced divorce attorney and mediator with a successful track record of over 35 years, I can help you!

During the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic all our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are conveniently

conducted virtually to reduce risk.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


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