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How to Divorce a Sociopath!


As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have helped many spouses escape the clutches of a psychopathic partner. Divorcing a sociopath is not easy! But it is possible.

Let me help you…

Psychopaths tend to be extremely charming, often secretly ruining the lives of the very person they profess to love. Psychopaths use their charm to deceive and trap their victims.

The typical television mini-series psychopath is often a ruthless serial killer. But the majority of people who exhibit psychopathic traits are much more subtle. That is why marrying a psychopath is possible and not as unusual as you might think.

In my psychologically-based divorce mediation practice, I have identified a psychopathic spouse during many consultations.

Here are some of the traits:

  • Antisocial behavior
  • Superficial charm
  • Impulsivity
  • Callous, unemotional personality
  • Lack of guilt
  • Lack of empathy
  • Socially irresponsible behavior
  • Disregarding or violating the right of others
  • Inability to distinguish right from wrong
  • Tendency to lie often
  • Manipulating and hurting others
  • Difficulty showing remorse or empathy

When a spouse tells me they think they are married to a psychopath, they have experienced all kinds of unsettling behaviors from their spouse.

A professional man and father called me 7 months ago telling me he was really disturbed by his wife’s behavior and thought his wife was aggressively trying to manipulate his entire life.

They had married 6 years ago and had a 3-year-old daughter. His wife was an accountant and he was an engineer. It had been a quick marriage and he felt his wife had married him purely to have a child and for money.

He came to the marriage with a large inheritance and he had paid all her college and graduate school debts, bought her an expensive home, which she had demanded, and had financed the development of her small accounting firm practice.

She took no responsibility for anything in the marriage and ran up debts expecting him to take care of them. She bought very expensive jewelry they couldn’t afford.

When he confronted her, she would belittle him, call him names, and tell him that she deserved someone smarter, more accomplished and that he was a loser who was lucky to have her in his life. She was always right; he was always wrong.

When he called me he was miserable and done with being abused and taken advantage of by his wife. He felt embarrassed and made it clear he needed help to stand up to her and end the marriage.

We are working on his case currently and fighting to get him the best settlement possible. His wife has pushed back along the way and has acted as though she is the victim. We are gathering some financial forensics to locate assets she hid away in some investments in her accounting firm, and my client is working with a psychologist on my team to help him gain insight and emotional strength to fight her.

We also found out from a private investigator we hired that she has been having an affair with her trainer for the past 2 years.

If you are in a marriage that looks similar to the one I just shared with you, I can help you and your family.

My combination of legal and psychological strategies is unique and effective when it comes to divorce. The understanding and proper guidance for this complicated situation is important for a psychologically safe and legally satisfactory outcome.

For over 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been guiding spouses to find the successful path to divorce.

I have the unique ability to provide a compassionate and productive process to see you through your divorce.

Our FREE 1-hour consultations are veryinformative and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk!

I look forward to helping you and your family.

Stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


If you think you are married to a psychopath and want a divorce call New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner now to schedule your FREE consultation.