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Is It Time to Divorce Your Controlling Spouse?


During a recent phone consultation, I spoke with a woman in her late 30’s who tearfully explained she was married to an abusive man. Her husband had taken total control of her life and she needed help.

She further explained he was reading her personal mail, wouldn’t allow her to have her own credit card, and had her followed a few times because he constantly accused her of cheating. He actually controlled what she ate because he refused to be seen with a “fat wife.”

He insisted she give up her successful career as a fit model 10 years ago when she gave birth to their twin daughters.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I realized during the conversation that he was a controlling spouse and she had been forced o become a dependent spouse. She was going to need an attorney/mediator with a strong understanding of psychology to get her the best possible outcome.

I assured her I would fight for her, and I am doing so.

If you are in a marriage where you have lost your identity and voice, there is a way out. Don’t just sit there. Take action!

Here are some signs you have a controlling spouse:

  1. . You don’t have knowledge of financial information including income;
  1. . You have separate bank accounts and savings;
  1. . You are encouraged to stop working;
  1. . You are discouraged from seeing your friends and family;
  1. . You are the object of disparaging and threatening comments;
  1. . You are ordered around;
  1. . You are blamed for everything.

If you are in a marriage that looks like this, I can help you.

My unique combination of legal and medical training is very effective when it comes to helping a spouse to gain freedom from a controlling spouse.

Don’t hesitate to get the help you need. Call me today!

All our FREE CONSULTATIONS are discreetly and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.

Find the strength to move out of a controlling marriage! Call me, and I will help you!

I hope to hear from you!

Stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


New York divorce attorney Lois Brenner still has some appointments available this week.

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