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Attorney Lois Brenner's Divorce Checklist!


Divorce is messy, sad and often painful. It affects every aspect of your life. Asking questions important to you during your initial consultation with a divorce attorney/mediator

is key to navigating your path to a successful divorce and hiring the right person to guide you through this complex process!

Preparing for your divorce consultation is an important first step.

When spouses call to schedule their free consultations, in order to maximize their time with me, we suggest they prepare the following:

A List of Questions

Think about what is important for you to know. The reason you go to a divorce attorney/mediator is so you are properly educated and to learn all the options available to you. There is more than one way to get a divorce.

Therefore, no question is too small or trivial. It is important that you are well informed. So make a list of the questions that are important to you and your family.

Consider what you would like after your divorce. People get divorced and hope to move on with their lives in as positive a way as possible. Considering how you wish to do this is important.

If for example, you have no desire to stay in the marital home but would like to see your children at least twice a week, it is important the attorney knows what you want from the get-go. This way they’ll be able to represent you to the best of their abilities.

Start Gathering Asset Information

Current statements for all checking accounts, savings accounts, credit card statements, and other deposit accounts. Include cash if you or your spouse hold significant cash, such as in a safety deposit box.

List stocks, bonds, investments, mutual funds, secured notes, and other liquid and non-liquid investments.

Copies of all documents showing how title is held and most recent statements, plus a copy of statements as close to the date of separation as possible. If a security is held in certificate form, provide a copy of the certificate. Also, provide the cost basis of each security/investment owned. (Cost basis is needed on all non-retirement account assets.)

Retirement accounts and Pensions and Deferred Compensation Plans: (401k, defined benefit and defined contribution plans). Provide a copy of the latest summary plan documents (with terms and conditions of the plan) and most recent benefit statements plus the statement as near as possible to the date of separation.


Any copies of deeds to property, mortgages or equity loans are something your attorney may need. Division of property is an essential part of the process, so disclosing this is very helpful to a divorce lawyer.

Tax Returns

Pull together your tax returns. This is usually standard. Lawyers will most likely request the last 3 years of tax returns from a client, so you should be prepared. Tax returns are used in conjunction with pay stubs and other evidence in the calculation of spousal and child support.

Also provide copies of checks or records of tax refunds if received individually by either party before or after separation. If you expect a refund but haven’t filed your returns yet, provide a copy of your extensions.

Pay Stubs

Spousal Support and Child Support are calculated by income including what you and your partner earn and therefore evidence of this aids the attorney in assessing whether you are entitled to or should be giving spousal and child support and how much.

Gathering pay stubs, bank statements and credit card statements is a good first step. There may be debt from the marriage and there may be substantial assets sitting in accounts. Either way, it is important that these are fully disclosed to your attorney so that they can assist you with the resolution. Reviewing bank statements and credit card statements is very useful. I often recommend that clients summarize these so that I am able to get an accurate overview as quickly as possible.


Job benefits are often ignored but are, in my experience, a prevalent part of any divorce settlement. Consider:

a. employee benefits

b. retirement plans

c. bonuses

d. life insurance

e. health insurance

Life and Disability Insurance Policies

Provide declaration pages showing face amount, date, type of policy, insured, owner, beneficiary (ies), cash value and/or loan value. If a policy is term without cash value, you should collect the documents showing the death benefit, beneficiary and premium and whether it is an individual policy or a policy through your employer.

You don’t need all of this for your initial consultation, but getting everything together and being familiar with what exists puts you in the driver’s seat.

If you are ready to take the first step towards your divorce, call me. I will help you put your checklist together and answer all your questions.

For over 35 years I have been successfully helping divorcing spouses to find the best path to divorce. I will help you too!

Schedule your FREE 1 hour consultation to learn more…

All consultations and mediation sessions are still conveniently conducted virtually.

I look forward to speaking with you.

Warm regards,


Lois Brenner is referred to as the “Lawyer's Lawyer” and is recognized for handling sophisticated and complex cases discretely and creatively, including those involving high net worth individuals, business owners and executives, lawyers, doctors, celebrities, and public figures.

Call New York Divorce Lawyer, Lois Brenner now to schedule your free consultation now. 212.734.1551