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My Survival Guide for Divorcing Spouses!


Divorce can be a challenging and emotional process for anyone involved. It is a significant life transition that can leave people feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and uncertain about their future.

As a skilled, psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am equipped to provide the comprehensive support needed to move successfully through the divorce process.

If you're considering or going through a divorce, it's essential to have a plan in place to navigate this difficult time. Here are some of my practical tips to help you survive and thrive during a divorce:

Stay Calm and Focused

Divorce can bring out the worst in people, and it's easy to get caught up in the emotional rollercoaster. However, it's essential to stay calm and focused during this time. Try not to let your emotions take over and cloud your judgment. Keep your end goals in mind and try to approach the divorce process in a rational and level-headed way.

Organize Your Finances

Divorce can have a significant impact on your finances. Make sure to gather all financial documents, such as bank statements, tax returns, and investment accounts, and create a budget for yourself.

Prioritize Your Children

If you have children, their well-being should be a top priority during the divorce process. Try to minimize the impact on them by keeping them informed, maintaining a stable routine, and avoiding bad-mouthing your ex-spouse. Co-parenting can be challenging, but it's essential to put your children's needs first.

Seek Support

Divorce can be isolating but you don't have to go through it alone. Seek support from family, friends, or a therapist to help you through this time. Joining a support group for people going through divorce can also provide a sense of community and understanding.

Hire a Skilled Divorce Attorney/Mediator

A good divorce attorney/mediator can be your greatest asset during the divorce process. He or she can help you navigate the legal system and advocate for your best interests. Research and choose an attorney/mediator who has experience in divorce and is a good fit for your personality and communication style.

Unlike other divorce attorneys, I am also a medical professional who can provide a psychological approach to divorce. This comprehensive legal/psychological divorce system provides extensive support for anyone facing divorce.

Be Open to Negotiation

Divorce is often a negotiation process. Be open to compromise and negotiation to reach a fair and equitable settlement. Be willing to consider your ex-spouse's perspective and find common ground whenever possible.

Keep Communication Civil

Communicating with your ex-spouse can be challenging, but it's essential to keep communication civil and respectful. Avoid name-calling, blaming, or any other behaviors that could escalate the conflict. Instead, try to approach communication in a neutral and professional manner.

Stay Focused on Your Future

Divorce can be an opportunity for growth and a new beginning. Focus on your future goals and what you want to achieve after the divorce. Don't let the past hold you back from moving forward and creating the life you want.

If you are thinking about divorce, you need to be prepared. There are options to explore. You can mediate, negotiate, or litigate.

If mediation is new to you, it is an effective, cooperative process in which a neutral third party (me) helps couples reach a fair settlement.

During mediation, I request honesty, promote positive communication, handle the couples’ expressions of emotion, reinforce positive decisions, uncover and address the root of underlying issues, and help couples stay focused on finding solutions and preparing for the future instead of arguing about the past.

If you are interested in hearing about how this highly successful mediation method can work for you, give me a call! I will be happy to answer all your questions about mediation!

Don’t worry, even if you are angry at each other, I can help! You will be surprised; I am an effective and fair referee!

All our FREE ONE-HOUR CONSULTATIONS are conveniently conducted virtually.

Call now to schedule your free consultation. 212.734.1551.

I look forward to working with you, and helping you find productive solutions!

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner today to schedule your free consultation!

Call 212.734.1551.