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Are You Tired of Being Controlled by a Bully in Your Marriage?


During a recent phone consultation, I spoke with a woman in her early 30s who tearfully explained she had lost control over her life. Her husband of 5 years had insisted she have a child right after they married, give up her career and insisted she stop talking to her family.

She further explained her husband monitored all her mail, emails and phone calls. He also decided who could or could not be her friend. To add insult to injury, she just found out he has been cheating on her with multiple women.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I realized quickly during the conversation that he was a controlling spouse and she was trapped in a toxic marriage. She was going to need an attorney/mediator with a strong understanding of this type of spouse to get her the best possible outcome.

I assured her I would fight for her and I am doing so. Right now she is working with a divorce coach who is part of my team and we are in strong negotiations with her husband’s attorney as we discuss asset distribution, support, child custody and visitation.

If you are in a marriage where you have lost your identity and voice, there is a way out. But you must take the first step! It won’t be easy, but you don’t have to do it alone.

If you are unhappy in your marriage and not sure if you are being controlled by your spouse, take a look at some controlling behaviors that are clearly red flags!

  1. You don’t have knowledge of financial information including income.
  1. You have separate bank accounts and savings.
  1. You are encouraged to stop working.
  1. You are discouraged from seeing your friends and family.
  1. You are the object of disparaging and threatening comments.
  1. You are blamed for everything.

If you are in a marriage that looks like this, you are probably being controlled by your spouse and I can help you.

My unique combination of legal and medical training is very effective when it comes to helping a spouse to gain freedom from a controlling spouse.

Don’t hesitate to get the help you need. Call me today!

All our FREE CONSULTATIONS are still available virtually.

Find the strength to move out of a controlling marriage! Call me, and I will help you.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Warm regards,


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