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Did You Know That Psychology Plays a Big Role in Marriage and Divorce?


Marriage and divorce are two significant life events that can have a huge impact on one's mental health and well-being.

While marriage can bring happiness, companionship, fulfillment and love, divorce can be a challenging and emotional process that can result in feelings of sadness, loss, and even depression.

As a seasoned psychologically trained family law attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I have been educating individuals and helping them explore the psychology of marriage and divorce. I help them understand the important factors that contribute to a healthy marriage and the complex issues that can lead to divorce.

So let me share my insights on the psychology of marriage and divorce with you!

The Psychology of Marriage

Marriage is a complex social institution that is influenced by a range of psychological factors.

In my experience as a medically trained legal professional, some of the factors that contribute to a successful marriage include:


Effective communication is crucial to the success of any relationship, including marriage. Open, honest, and respectful communication can help couples build trust, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their emotional bond.


Marriage requires a deep level of commitment from both partners. Couples who are committed to each other are more likely to work through challenges and maintain a strong, long-lasting relationship.


Couples who share similar values, interests, and goals are more likely to have a successful marriage. When partners are compatible, they are more likely to understand and support each other, which can contribute to a much deeper emotional connection.

Emotional Support

Emotional support is another critical factor in a successful marriage. Partners who feel supported and valued by their spouse are more likely to feel happy and satisfied in their relationship.


Intimacy is an essential part of a healthy marriage. Couples who are physically intimate are more likely to feel connected and emotionally fulfilled.

The Psychology of Divorce

Divorce can be a challenging and emotional process.

In my experience as a medically trained family attorney and mediator, I’d like to share with you some of the common issues I see leading to divorce:

Communication Problems

Communication problems are one of the most common reasons for divorce. When partners do not communicate effectively, misunderstandings can lead to conflicts, which can cause stress and tension in the relationship. Communication should be without blame.


Infidelity is another common reason for divorce. When one partner is unfaithful, it can cause significant emotional pain and damage to the relationship.

Financial Problems

When couples struggle with financial issues, it can cause stress and tension in the relationship, which can ultimately lead to divorce.

Mental Health Issues

As a psychologically trained family law attorney/mediator, I work with many individuals who are suffering with mental health issues. Many marriages are impacted by personality disorders like narcissism, bipolarity, depression, and borderline and personality disorders, just to name a few. Mental health issues are destroying the fabric of marriages today and taking a toll on the mental well-being of families.

Lack of Emotional Support

When partners do not feel emotionally supported or valued by their spouse, it can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation, which can ultimately lead to divorce.

Different Goals and Values

When partners have different goals and values, it can lead to conflicts and disagreements.

What You Need to Know

Marriage and divorce are complex and emotional experiences that require a deep level of understanding and commitment.

If you are considering getting married or are currently married, there are several things you can do to help ensure the success of your relationship:


Effective communication is critical to the success of any relationship that is not working. Be open, honest, and respectful in your communication with your partner. Listen! Listen! Listen!

Be Committed

Marriage requires a deep level of commitment and respect from both partners. Make a commitment to your partner and your relationship and be willing to work through challenges and conflicts. Don’t throw in the towel too easily.

Seek Support

If you are struggling in your marriage, don’t be afraid to seek support from a counselor or therapist who can help you work through your challenges and improve your relationship. Therapy is a powerful tool. Use it!

Understand Your Partner

Take the time to understand your partner's needs, wants, and goals. Be willing to compromise and make sacrifices for the good of your relationship. Support each other’s careers and champion your partner’s dreams.

Be Intimate

Physical intimacy is an essential aspect of a healthy marriage. Make time for intimacy with your partner and work to keep your marriage happy and fulfilled. If you are both working and spending less time together don’t forget to schedule date nights. Your marriage is worth it!

Whether you are thinking of marriage, married or embarking on a divorce, remember to give it all some time. Marriage is challenging and exciting, divorce can be confusing and painful. Work on everything, and don’t give up too soon.

As a psychologically trained family law attorney and mediator with a medical background, I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological and legal strategy necessary to save your marriage or end your marriage. No matter what path you are on, I can help you make the best decisions. Let’s talk! Schedule your free consultation today.

I look forward to helping you!!

Warm regards,


Whether you want to save or end your marriage, New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner will coach you through the process!

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