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Lois Brenner's Parenting Plan Checklist!


When parents separate or divorce, it is important to create a parenting agreement that outlines how they will share responsibilities for their children's care and upbringing.

As a skilled, psychologically trained family law attorney/mediator, I have created thousands of parenting agreements.

An effective parenting agreement should consider the best interests of the children and provide clear guidelines for how the parents will make decisions about their upbringing, education, and lifestyle.

Here are some key elements that I suggest parents include in their parenting agreement:

Parenting Schedule

This outlines the time each parent will have with the children, including weekdays, weekends, holidays, and special occasions. It should be specific and include the exact days and times for exchange of custody.


It is important to establish who will make decisions regarding the children's education, healthcare, and religion. These decisions can be made jointly, or one parent may be given decision-making authority in a particular area.


Communication is key, and the parenting agreement should specify how parents will communicate about their children. This includes how they will share important information, such as medical updates, school reports, and extra-curricular activities, as well as how they will handle conflicts that may arise.


Transportation arrangements should be included in the parenting agreement. This includes who will be responsible for transporting the children to and from school, activities, and other appointments.


The parenting agreement should outline how parents will share financial responsibilities for their children. This includes child support, medical expenses, and extracurricular activities.

Conflict Resolution

A good parenting agreement should include a conflict resolution process for resolving disputes that may arise between parents. This can include mediation, arbitration, or involving a parenting coordinator. As a seasoned mediator, I have helped many couples discuss and negotiate issues involving their children and have created comprehensive plans that included their wishes.

Parenting Styles

Parenting styles should be considered and included in the agreement. For example, if one parent is very strict and the other is more relaxed, there needs to be an understanding of how they will co-parent effectively.


Finally, consistency is key for children's well-being. The parenting agreement should establish consistency in routines, rules, and expectations across both households.

As a seasoned family law attorney and mom, I find when both parents commit to following a good parenting agreement, it can help ensure a stable and more positive environment for their children to grow and thrive.

If you have any questions regarding creating a solid, effective parenting plan, please call me at 212.734.1551.

It will be back to school before we know it. If you need to address some issues regarding your child, I will be happy to help you develop a plan you can both live with and one your children will benefit from.

Schedule your free consultation today!

I look forward to helping you make important decisions that are in the best interest of your children and your family.

Warm regards,


New York Divorce lawyer Lois Brenner is offering a free parenting plan consultation.

Call 212.734.1551