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Lois Brenner's Survival Guide for Divorcing a Narcissist!


If you are going to divorce a narcissist, my survival guide will help you! Are you ready? Do you have what it takes? Come on! You can do it! And I can help…

As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have navigated successful divorces for spouses married to narcissists for decades.

If you are divorcing a narcissist you will need courage and strength to fight for what you want and to successfully detach from a narcissist while securing a happier future.

A narcissistic spouse will try to bully, control, and intimidate you. They thrive on seeing you punished or daring you to go against them. They will convince you that you are the crazy one! Well, I’m here to tell you, you are not crazy. That’s what the narcissist wants you to think. It’s time to take power and contol back from your narcissitic spouse!

It’s important to understand that narcissim is a personality disorder often linked to other personality disorders like Borderline, Bipolar, etc.

Narcissists come in all shapes and sizes and have the following behaviors:

  • Overexaggerate their importance, popularity, and accomplishments;
  • Exploit others for personal gain;
  • Need their egos constantly fed;
  • Crave admiration;
  • Like to pit people against each other for his/her pleasure;
  • Manipulate using lies and threats;
  • They are judge, jury, and executioner.

Is your spouse blaming you for everything? Making you question your sanity? Do they demand automatic compliance from you? Get pleasure out of your pain?

Then you are probably married to a narcissist and you are going to need some heavy duty armor to divorce them.

Divorcing a narcissist requires comprehensive preparation. That means psychologically and financially.

My survival guide for divorcing a narcissist suggests:

Channeling Your Inner Talent as a Spy

Gather as much information as possible! Make copies, take pictures of statements, assets, and all important documents such as:

  • All bank accounts
  • Investment accounts
  • Retirement accounts
  • Pay stubs
  • Tax returns (at least 3 years)
  • Insurance (life and health)
  • Mortgages, titles to property
  • Vehicle registration/title
  • Valuables—antiques, art, and jewelry

Getting Reacquanted With Your Finances and Expenses

You have probably relinquished financial control to your narcissistic spouse. Losing power and access to finances is not unusual. It’s part of the “trapping” mechanism a narcissist puts into place to maintain control over their victim. You don’t see bills, know what the household expenses are, or see credit cards detailing what is spent.

You’re also not seeing that your spouse is treating his mistriss to vacations, gifts of jewelry, and spa days. Start looking at the credit card statements and bills and figure out expenses so you can paint a true financial picture of your lifestyle. It’s time to get strategic!

Assembling Your Divorce Team

Your divorce team will be a valuable investment in your future. You will need a strategic, psycholgically astute attorney to provide you with support. Not just any divorce attorney will do in your battle against a narcissist.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney/mediator, I am uniquely prepared to help you face off with a nacissistic spouse. I, along with my skilled divorce team, can provide a comprehesive support system offering legal strategy, psychological insight, and financial forensics to get you the best possible results.

A narcissist is a toxic, high-maintenance personality. You will need an attorney/mediator skilled in handling a narcissist to gain your freedom and prevail in obtaining a successful divorce.

If I can help you navigate a safe path out of this type of marriage, call me right now! A free consultation is a phone call away 212.734.1551.

I am familiar with the traits of a narcissist and uniquely trained as both a medical professional and divorce attorney to help you successfully and safely divorce the narcissist in your life.

I know about all the psychological disorders and even treat them in a medical practice.

Don’t be afraid! Working with me and my team of experts will give you the psychological/legal support you need to free yourself from a narcissistic spouse!

Warm regards,


Divorcing a narcissist takes courage and an attorney skilled at combating the toxic behaviors of a narcissist.

Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to schedule your free consultation.

Call 212.734.1551