Divorce and separation can be overwhelming, especially when children are involved. Two of the most important issues parents face are child custody and child support. Courts make these decisions with the child’s best interests in mind, but there are steps you can take to improve your chances of a favorable outcome. Whether you are pursuing custody, child support, or both, preparation and strategy are key. As a medically trained divorce attorney/mediator, I can help you get what you want and need!
1. Understand the Different Types of Custody
To build a strong case, you first need to know the types of custody:
- Legal custody: The right to make major decisions about your child’s life, including education, medical care, and religion.
- Physical custody: Where the child lives on a daily basis.
- Sole custody: One parent has primary responsibility.
- Joint custody: Both parents share responsibilities, either equally or in a structured arrangement.
Courts often prefer joint custody if both parents are fit, but demonstrating that you provide a stable, nurturing, and safe environment can strengthen your position for primary custody.
2. Document Your Involvement as a Parent
Judges look closely at parental involvement. Keep detailed records of:
- School attendance and parent-teacher meetings you attend.
- Medical appointments.
- Daily routines (homework help, extracurricular activities, bedtime).
- Communication between you and your child.
The more you can show that you are consistently engaged in your child’s life, the stronger your custody case will be.
3. Prioritize Your Child’s Best Interests
The court’s main concern is the child’s welfare. Factors considered include:
- The stability of each parent’s home.
- Emotional and financial ability to care for the child.
- The child’s relationship with each parent.
- Any history of abuse, neglect, or substance abuse.
Show that you are committed to providing consistency, stability, and love above all else. Avoid negative talk about the other parent in front of your child, as this can hurt your credibility.
4. Strengthen Your Case for Child Support
Child support is determined by state guidelines, usually based on income, custody arrangements, and the child’s needs. To improve your chances of receiving fair child support:
- Gather financial documents (pay stubs, tax returns, bank statements).
- Be transparent about your own income and expenses.
- Ensure you have proof of the child’s needs (school costs, healthcare, childcare, extracurriculars).
- Work with a family law professional or mediator to present accurate financial information.
5. Consider Mediation Before Litigation
While litigation may feel like the only option, divorce mediation can be less expensive, less hostile, and quicker. In mediation, both parents work with a neutral mediator to create a custody and child support agreement tailored to their family’s needs. This often results in less emotional stress on children and more cooperative parenting after divorce.
6. Hire the Right Professional Help
As an experienced medically trained divorce attorney/ mediator, I can help guide you through the legal process, protect your rights, and ensure your child’s needs are prioritized. Choosing someone who understands both the legal and emotional aspects of custody battles can make a significant difference.
If you are fighting for child custody and child support, preparation and presentation matter. Show that you are a responsible, consistent, and a caring parent. Gather documentation, stay focused on your child’s best interests, and seek professional guidance.
As a divorce attorney, mediator and medical professional, I, along with my team of child custody and child support experts will create the right strategy so you can secure a custody and support arrangement that protects your child and ensures their needs are met.
Please call now to schedule your free consultation 212.734.1551.
I look forward to helping you and your family.
Warm regards,
Lois