As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35
years, I have helped many spouses escape the clutches of a psychopathic
partner. Divorcing a sociopath is not easy! But it is possible.
Let me help you…
Psychopaths tend to be extremely charming, often secretly ruining the lives
of the very person they profess to love. Psychopaths use their charm to
deceive and trap their victims.
The typical television mini-series psychopath is often a ruthless serial
killer. But the majority of people who exhibit psychopathic traits are
much more subtle. That is why marrying a psychopath is possible and not
as unusual as you might think.
In my psychologically-based divorce mediation practice, I have identified
a psychopathic spouse during many consultations.
Here are some of the traits:
- Antisocial behavior
- Superficial charm
- Callous, unemotional personality
- Lack of guilt
- Lack of empathy
- Socially irresponsible behavior
- Disregarding or violating the right of others
- Inability to distinguish right from wrong
- Tendency to lie often
- Manipulating and hurting others
- Difficulty showing remorse or empathy
When a spouse tells me they think they are married to a psychopath, they
have experienced all kinds of unsettling behaviors from their spouse.
A professional man and father called me 7 months ago telling me he was
really disturbed by his wife’s behavior and thought his wife was
aggressively trying to manipulate his entire life.
They had married 6 years ago and had a 3-year-old daughter. His wife was
an accountant and he was an engineer. It had been a quick marriage and
he felt his wife had married him purely to have a child and for money.
He came to the marriage with a large inheritance and he had paid all her
college and graduate school debts, bought her an expensive home, which
she had demanded, and had financed the development of her small accounting
She took no responsibility for anything in the marriage and ran up debts
expecting him to take care of them. She bought very expensive jewelry
they couldn’t afford.
When he confronted her, she would belittle him, call him names, and tell
him that she deserved someone smarter, more accomplished and that he was
a loser who was lucky to have her in his life. She was always right; he
was always wrong.
When he called me he was miserable and done with being abused and taken
advantage of by his wife. He felt embarrassed and made it clear he needed
help to stand up to her and end the marriage.
We are working on his case currently and fighting to get him the best settlement
possible. His wife has pushed back along the way and has acted as though
she is the victim. We are gathering some financial forensics to locate
assets she hid away in some investments in her accounting firm, and my
client is working with a psychologist on my team to help him gain insight
and emotional strength to fight her.
We also found out from a private investigator we hired that she has been
having an affair with her trainer for the past 2 years.
If you are in a marriage that looks similar to the one I just shared with
you, I can help you and your family.
My combination of legal and psychological strategies is unique and effective
when it comes to divorce. The understanding and proper guidance for this
complicated situation is important for a psychologically safe and legally
For over 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been guiding
spouses to find the successful path to divorce.
I have the unique ability to provide a compassionate and productive process
to see you through your divorce.
FREE 1-hour consultations are veryinformative and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk!
I look forward to helping you and your family.
Stay healthy and safe!
If you think you are married to a psychopath and want a divorce call New
York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner now to schedule your FREE consultation.