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6 Signs You Are Ready to Get Divorced!


Not sure you want a divorce, but you’ve been thinking about it? Need some guidance on how to make the right decision? As a highly skilled, psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can help you with that decision and provide you with different paths to get there.

No two divorces are alike. Each divorce has its unique make-up and needs. Every person, and each marriage is different. But there are some common signs a marriage is not working anymore.

The six signs are:

  1. Communication Has Stopped

If you have stopped talking, your marriage is not working. Communication is key. The lack of communication starts to slowly erode at the fabric of most marriages. I always suggest speaking with a therapist or marriage counselor as a first step if this is happening in a marriage. Therapy can correct this if both parties are open to it. It not, then divorce may be the only course of action.

  1. Financial Imbalance

Your spouse is not respecting or managing the family finances responsibly. How to spend and save money needs to be a united approach. Financial issues are one of the main reasons for divorce. If you are not both on the same financial page a marriage can unravel quickly.

  1. Intimacy No Longer Exists

Intimacy is more than sex. It’s the emotional and sexual bond that brought you together to begin with. If that no longer exists you are in trouble. A spouse starts to feel lonely when this occurs and sometimes the lack of intimacy, whether physical or emotional, can lead to infidelity.

  1. Fighting With Your Spouse

It’s natural to have some arguments but not constant fighting, especially if it gets out of control. Some spouses have a need to push buttons in their partner. They enjoy the back and forth. Having arguments occasionally is healthy. A repeat diet of fighting is unhealthy.

  1. Respect for Your Partner Has Disappeared

Big red flag! When respect no longer exists, the marriage is fading away. Respect and communication go hand in hand. If you have no respect for your spouse there is no marriage any more.

  1. Someone Has Cheated

This is a clear indication that the marriage has moved into a space of perhaps no return. Nothing says a marriage is over as loudly as a spouse cheating. You can try to turn things around but if the cheating spouse is not willing to do so, divorce may be your only exit strategy.

If you have been thinking about divorce the next step is to speak with a seasoned divorce attorney/mediator (like me!) to discuss your concerns and learn about your options.

There is more than one way to divorce. You can consider mediation, litigation or negotiation. As a seasoned, psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I will be happy to walk you down each path and help you decide which route will be best for you and your family.

As I mentioned earlier, no two marriages are alike. Taking a look at all the elements of your marriage will help us decide the best divorce process for you that will address all your wants and needs.

If you would like to share your story with me, call me. I will give you common sense answers to all your divorce questions.

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I look forward to speaking with you, and helping you find the best possible solution.

Warm regards,


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