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My Advice on How to Protect Yourself and Prepare Properly to Divorce a Narcissist!


Divorcing a narcissist can be an incredibly challenging, tiring, and emotionally draining experience. Narcissists have a deep-seated need for control, and they often refuse to accept responsibility for their actions. This can make it difficult to negotiate a fair settlement and move on with your life.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have a special expertise when it comes to divorcing a spouse with mental illness and narcissists in particular.

Here is my advice on how to protect yourself and prepare properly when divorcing a narcissist.

I hope this information helps you as you begin this daunting journey. Remember, you don’t have to do it alone!

Document Everything

And I mean everything! One of the most important things you can do when preparing for a divorce with a narcissist is to document everything. This means keeping a record of all communications, including emails, text messages, and phone calls. It also means keeping a detailed log of all interactions with your spouse, including any incidents of abuse or other inappropriate behavior. The more information you have, the better!

Documentation is important for several reasons. First, it can help you build a strong case in court if necessary. Second, it can help you maintain your own sanity by providing a clear record of what has happened and when it happened. And third, it can help you protect yourself and your children from any potential harm.

Seek Professional Help

Dealing with a narcissist can be incredibly stressful and emotionally draining. It's important to seek professional help to manage your stress and anxiety during this time. This might include working with a therapist or counselor who specializes in divorce and/or narcissistic personality disorder.

You may also want to consider working with a divorce attorney/mediator who has experience dealing with narcissists. These professionals can help you develop a strategy for protecting yourself and your children during the divorce process.

As a medically trained divorce attorney/mediator I have experts in many disciplines as part of my team to assist in this complex divorce process.

Set Boundaries

Narcissists are often extremely manipulative and controlling. It's important to set clear boundaries with your spouse to protect yourself from their manipulation. This might mean limiting contact with them, avoiding certain topics of conversation, or refusing to engage in arguments.

Setting boundaries can be difficult, especially if you're used to being accommodating or deferential to your spouse. But it's important to remember that you have the right to protect yourself and your children from any potential harm.

Be Prepared

Gathering all of the necessary documentation, including financial records, communication records, and any evidence of abuse or other inappropriate behavior will help your divorce process.

You should also be prepared to present your case in a calm and rational manner. Narcissists are often skilled at manipulating others, so it's important to stay focused and not get drawn into their drama.

Focus on Your Own Needs

Don’t get caught up in the drama of your narcissistic spouse and lose sight of what you need! Stay focused on your own goals and priorities, whether that means protecting your children, securing a fair settlement, or simply maintaining your own sanity.

A narcissist is a toxic, high-maintenance personality. They will drain you and your life if you let them. If you are ready to get out of an unhealthy relationship with a narcissist, call me.

I can help you navigate a safe path out of this type of marriage. I will provide you with all the legal and psychological support you need!

I am familiar with the traits of a narcissist and uniquely trained as both a medical professional and a divorce attorney to help you successfully and safely divorce the narcissist in your life.

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Warm regards,


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