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My 8 Tips for Leaving a Toxic Marriage!


Making the decision to leave a toxic marriage can be incredibly challenging, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. Many people have faced the same difficult decision, and there are resources and support available to help you through the process.

As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely skilled at creating a path and support system to extract a spouse from a toxic marriage. Divorcing a toxic spouse takes strength, skill, and determination.

Here are my 8 tips to consider as you navigate the bumpy journey of leaving a toxic marriage.

1. Acknowledge the Reality of Your Situation.

The first step in leaving a toxic marriage is acknowledging that the situation is not healthy and that you deserve better. It can be difficult to come to terms with the fact that your relationship is toxic, especially if you’ve been in denial for a long time.

However, it’s important to understand that staying in a toxic marriage can have serious consequences for your mental, emotional, and physical health.

2. Reach Out for Support.

Toxic marriages can be an isolating experience, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a therapist for support. Consider joining a support group for people who have experienced similar situations. Having a strong support system can make all the difference as you navigate the challenges of leaving a toxic marriage. I have excellent therapists on my team that help my clients as part of our comprehensive divorce process.

3. Choose Your Attorney/Mediator Wisely.

Gathering your team of experts is key for leaving a toxic marriage. Creating your strategy with the right professionals will put you in the driver’s seat. Could mediation work? Will litigation be necessary? Do you want to fight or negotiate? What will work best for your divorce? How will you tackle a custody battle? What will you do about hidden assets? It’s important to be prepared for all possibilities. Working with the right attorney/mediator will provide you with

the comprehensive support often necessary to walk through the difficulties of a toxic relationship.

As a divorce attorney/mediator with psychologically know how, I, along with my team of professionals, can provide a safe, supportive and legally savvy roadmap to get you the best divorce results.

4. A Safety Plan Can Be Helpful.

If you’re in a situation where you fear for your safety, it’s important to create a safety plan before you leave. Make arrangements to stay with family and friends. I don’t advise that clients leave the marital residence unless under extreme circumstances.

5. Get Your Finances in Order.

Financial concerns can be a major barrier to leaving a toxic marriage. Take the time to get your finances in order before you plan your divorce and exit strategy. This may involve opening a separate bank account, establishing credit in your own name, and gathering important financial documents.

6. Consider the Impact on Your Children.

If you have children, it’s important to consider their needs as you make plans to leave a toxic marriage. This may involve working with a family therapist or child psychologist to develop a plan that prioritizes their safety and emotional wellbeing. We often recommend professionals to help with these services as part of our diverse divorce options approach.

Keep in mind that children are often more resilient than we give them credit for, and that leaving a toxic environment can be a positive step for the entire family.

7. Take Care of Yourself Along the Way.

Leaving a toxic marriage can be emotionally and physically draining. It’s important to prioritize self-care throughout the process. Remember that taking care of yourself is a vital component so you can come out on the other side happy and healthy!

8. Be Goal Oriented.

As you attempt to leave a toxic marriage, stay focused on your goals. It can be a long and difficult journey. Take things one day at a time, and celebrate each small victory along the way.

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I will use psychology and legal strategy to walk you safely through a difficult marriage to a successful divorce.

If you trust me with your divorce, I will support you and carefully guide you through all the steps.

I am offering Free 1-hour consultations that are discreet and informative.

All our FREE I HOUR CONSULTATIONS are still available virtually.

You are not alone. Reach out and get the answers you need today!

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to schedule your Free 1 Hour Consultation. Free yourself from a toxic marriage right now!!

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Remember that you are strong and capable, and that you deserve to live a happy and healthy life.