Divorce Blog | Lois M. Brenner, Esq.

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Dec-2023

I Can Help You Successfully Divorce a Narcissist!

You may ask yourself, “How did I get here? Why did I let this happen to me? What was I thinking?” The answer is you were seduced by your spouse’s charisma and cunning tactics. Don’t be too hard on yourself. The best and the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Oct-2023

10 Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating on You and What You Can Do About It!

Discovering that your spouse may be cheating on you is a distressing and challenging situation. While signs of infidelity do not definitively prove they are cheating, they may indicate the possibility of an affair. As a medically trained divorce ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Oct-2023

Are You Stuck in a Bad Marriage and Thinking About Divorce?

Divorce is not something you planned for when you walked blissfully down the aisle. Marriage is often depicted as a sacred union filled with love, understanding, and happiness. However, in reality, not all marriages turn out to be fairy tales. People ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Oct-2023

Men in Marriages Can Be Victims of Abuse Too!

When we think of spousal abuse we often hear the wife is being abused, but men get abused too, and I have helped many of them. I have worked with quite a few men in the last year who all found themselves in very emotionally abusive, and sometimes ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Sep-2023

Steps to Take When Your Husband Tells You He Wants a Divorce!

First Breathe! You will be okay! It is not unusual for a wife to all of a sudden hear from her husband that he wants a divorce. I receive calls all the time from wives who have just heard the devastating news! There can be a lot of factors ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Sep-2023

Your High Net Worth Divorce Deserves Sophisticated Representation!

As a New York medically-trained divorce lawyer/mediator for more than 35 years, I have handled many financially complex, high net worth, high profile and celebrity divorces. Divorce is never easy, but those involving large amounts of money, property, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Aug-2023

Lois Brenner's Divorce Checklist!

Divorce affects every aspect of your life. Asking questions important to you during your initial consultation with a divorce attorney/mediator is key to navigating your path to a successful divorce. As a highly skilled divorce attorney/mediator for ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Aug-2023

Want to Divorce Your Spouse You Can't Locate? We Can Help!

If you want a divorce but you have been estranged and you don’t know how to locate your spouse, Divorce by Publication is your answer, and we can help! In New York, the legal system requires that you make every effort to find your spouse in ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Jul-2023

Ready to leave a Miserable Marriage?

You may be living in an unhappy marriage and just have not gotten the courage to do anything about it. It's easy to keep putting it off because you know it will be unpleasant. As a medically trained divorce lawyer and mediator who deals with both ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Jul-2023

Do You Need An Uncontested Divorce?

As a divorce attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I have guided many spouse through the divorce process. New York law allows couples to obtain an uncontested divorce when both parties agree to the divorce as well as agreeing to spousal ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Jul-2023

Need Help Talking to Your Spouse About Divorce?

Scott and Jen have been married for 10 years. They have a 9-year-old daughter with behavioral problems. Scott is a drone pilot, and Jen works part-time as a makeup artist. For the past three years, Scott has been concerned that his wife has been in ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Jul-2023

Are You Trapped in a Toxic Marriage? Let Us Help You Choose the Best Divorce Path to Get Out!

Thinking about divorce? Is your spouse hiding money, mentally unstable, cheating, or abusing you? Or perhaps you are in agreement with getting a divorce and you just need a “voice of reason” to guide and protect you in the process? As a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Jul-2023

Lois Brenner's Survival Guide for Divorcing a Narcissist!

If you are going to divorce a narcissist, my survival guide will help you! Are you ready? Do you have what it takes? Come on! You can do it! And I can help… As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have navigated successful ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Jul-2023

Are You Over 50 and Considering a "Gray Divorce?"

A gray divorce refers to the dissolution of a marriage between individuals who are over the age of 50 or who have been married for a long time. It is called "gray" divorce because it typically involves older adults, and the term plays on ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Jun-2023

Do You Think Your Spouse Is Spying on You?

Do you ever feel like you are being watched? Well, maybe you are. As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have had many clients share with me their suspicions, and no they weren’t paranoid, they were correct. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Jun-2023

Thinking of Divorcing? Considering Moving Out of the Marital Residence? Don't

As a divorce attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I tell clients when they are thinking of divorce not to leave their home. Making this move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized. I often hear from clients that once ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Jun-2023

Don't Be Embarrassed if You Are a Husband Being Abused in a Marriage! I Can Help You!

When we think of spousal abuse we often hear the wife is being abused, but men get abused too, and I have helped many of them. I have worked with a few men in the last year who all found themselves in very emotionally abusive relationships with their ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Jun-2023

Are You Tired of Being Controlled and Manipulated by Your Spouse?

Divorcing a controlling and manipulative spouse can be a scary and daunting process. However, it is essential to prioritize your well-being and regain control of your life, and I can help you! As a medically trained divorce attorney/mediator for more ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Jun-2023

Items Frequently Fought Over in a Divorce!

Divorce can be a challenging and emotionally charged process, and one of the key aspects that often leads to disputes is the division of assets and liabilities. While every divorce is unique and the specific items fought over can vary greatly ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Jun-2023

10 Reasons Why Divorce May Be in the Best Interest of Your Children

Just the thought of divorce conjures up thoughts of sadness, confusion, fear and so much more. Divorce is a very challenging and emotional experience for any family, especially when children are involved. As a medically trained divorce ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Jun-2023

A Comprehensive Guide: My 9 Most Asked Divorce Questions!

Divorce is sad, frustrating, complex, and an emotionally challenging process that often raises numerous questions for those thinking of going through it. As a medically trained divorce attorney/mediator, I look at divorce through a unique lens of ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-May-2023

10 Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating on You and What You Can Do About It!

Discovering that your spouse may be cheating on you is a distressing and challenging situation. While signs of infidelity do not definitively prove they are cheating, they may indicate the possibility of an affair. As a divorce attorney/mediator, I ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-May-2023

Litigation? Negotiation? Mediation? Which Divorce Path Will You Choose?

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney/mediator for more than 35 years, I have guided many spouses as they make the very important decision on getting divorced. I have shared with them that there are a few ways to get divorced in New York. One ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-May-2023

Social Media May Be Ruining Your Marriage!

When a young woman called me and said, “Social media is ruining my marriage,” I told her I wasn’t surprised. Increasingly this is a chief complaint and cause for divorce. Couples don’t realize social media networking can be ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-May-2023

8 Reasons to Say "Goodbye" to Your Divorce Lawyer!

Every profession has wonderfully talented people. There will also be some professionals who are lazy, not assertive, or simply just not good at what they do. That’s just not good enough for you when it comes to your divorce attorney! As a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Apr-2023

The Top 10 Reasons for Divorce and Why Marriages Fail!

It’s Spring and lots of couples are getting ready to blissfully walk down the aisle, profess their love, and say, ‘I Do!” Marriage is a beautiful bond between two people who decide to spend their lives together, but unfortunately, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Apr-2023

My 5 Spring Cleaning Divorce Tips!

With the change of season comes the deep desire to start getting rid of the old and bring in the new. Cleaning out the closets, getting organized, opening up the windows, and airing out the house. It feels good!! For those of you thinking about ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Apr-2023

My Survival Guide for Divorcing Spouses!

Divorce can be a challenging and emotional process for anyone involved. It is a significant life transition that can leave people feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and uncertain about their future. As a skilled, psychologically trained divorce attorney ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Mar-2023

Divorcing Celebrity Couples Can Benefit From Mediation!

Divorce is a painful and challenging process for everyone, but it can be particularly challenging for celebrities who live in the public eye. High-profile divorces are often rife with drama, gossip, and public scrutiny, which can make the process ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Mar-2023

The 7 Most Important Questions to Ask During Your Free Divorce Consultation!

Thinking of divorce? What to do first. Going through a divorce is never easy, and it can be overwhelming to navigate the legal process on your own. That's why I have spent over 35 years educating and coaching spouses on the best ways to divorce. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Mar-2023

Need Help Divorcing a Millionaire?

Divorcing a millionaire can be a financially complicated and an emotionally draining ordeal. Whether you are the spouse seeking the divorce or the one who is being served with divorce papers, there are several important things that you need to know. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Mar-2023

My 8 Tips for Leaving a Toxic Marriage!

Making the decision to leave a toxic marriage can be incredibly challenging, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. Many people have faced the same difficult decision, and there are resources and support available to help you ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Mar-2023

What You Need to Know About Divorcing a Spouse With Borderline Personality Disorder!

What You Need to Know About Divorcing a Spouse With Borderline Personality Disorder! Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition that affects a person's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It can make it difficult for them ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Mar-2023

Divorce Strategy for Business Owners!

Divorces for people who own businesses are very different from those of wage earners. First of all, businesses often have cash income that is not declared on tax returns. This makes it difficult to estimate or trace the cash. Businesses are assets ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Feb-2023

Are You Worried About Surviving Financially if Divorce Comes Knocking on Your Door?

I received a phone call last week from a devastated spouse who said, “I can’t believe it, I have been married, I thought happily, for 9 years, and today my spouse said, ‘I want a divorce. I’m not happy. I want to be happy. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Feb-2023

10 Tips for Dividing Property in Divorce

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I can tell you divorce can be a complicated and an emotional process. One of the most challenging parts of divorcing can be the division of property and assets. In order to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Feb-2023

6 Tips to Skillfully Divorce a Narcissist!

Divorcing a narcissistic spouse can be challenging and emotionally taxing, as they may engage in manipulative or deceitful behavior during the divorce process. No one sets out to marry a narcissist. Their behavior charms you and sneaks up on you. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Feb-2023

Are You Experiencing Divorce Depression?

Have you wondered why you feel so bad? Do you think your marriage and the thoughts of divorce are making you depressed? Depression can make you feel tired and like you are living under a dark cloud. You have no interest in activities, feel stuck and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Feb-2023

Unhappy in Your Marriage? Deciding Whether You Should Separate or Divorce?

Thinking about separation or divorce? Whatever direction you choose, I’m here to answer all your questions, keep you on track, and help you meet your goals! With decades of experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been successfully ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Jan-2023

Were You Served With a Summons for Divorce? Call Me!

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator for over 35 years, I receive calls all the time from frantic spouses saying, “I’ve been served with a summons for divorce, what do I do?” I first tell them to breathe! Then ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Jan-2023

Do You Need Help Telling Your Spouse You Have Had Enough and Want a Divorce?

A high profile TikTok influencer called me to ask for my help on how to tell her spouse she wanted a divorce. Her husband had grown distant. He was barely holding a job anymore and spent no time with the children. He was drinking a lot and would ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Jan-2023

Don't Know Where Your Spouse Is? You Can Still Get Divorced!

If you want a divorce but you don’t know how to locate your spouse, Divorce by Publication is your answer! In New York, the legal system requires that you make every effort to find your spouse in order to get a divorce. As a seasoned divorce ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Jan-2023

Need Help Divorcing Your Addicted Spouse?

Spouses faced with addiction being a third party in their relationship generally find divorce to be their only way out. As a psychologically trained medical professional and divorce attorney, I have a unique approach to guiding couples through ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Jan-2023

Is It Time to Divorce Your Divorce Attorney?

All divorce attorneys are not created equal. I receive calls all the time from unhappy spouses who are not happy with the non-performance of their divorce attorney. Some of them feel their lawyer doesn’t know what he/she are doing, and others ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Jan-2023

Which Divorce Path Will You Choose in the New Year?

It’s a new year and many spouses who have been thinking about divorce are taking their first steps towards making divorce a reality. This is not an easy decision and you need the right attorney/mediator to educate you and provide the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Dec-2022

6 Tips to Reduce the Effects of Divorce on Your Children in the New Year!

Divorce is very difficult and an especially confusing time for children. Couples often get caught up in their own anger, drama, and the messy divorce process, the desire for revenge and the division of property and finances. But, who is looking out ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Dec-2022

6 Signs You Are Ready to Get Divorced!

Not sure you want a divorce, but you’ve been thinking about it? Need some guidance on how to make the right decision? As a highly skilled, psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can help you with that decision and provide you ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Dec-2022

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect the privacy ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Dec-2022

Should I Get A Divorce Attorney When Divorcing A Narcissist?

The answer is Yes! And preferably one that has psychological training. That won’t be easy to find. Lucky for you I am a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator. Narcissism is a particular area of interest for me. I can spot a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Dec-2022

Considering Divorce While Caring for Your Infant?

Here is a text I received 11 months ago: Dear Ms. Brenner, I am a first time mom and I am caring for my two month old son. I have decided I must get out of a hostile, abusive and very controlling marriage. I feel all alone. Can you help me? -Brandy- ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Nov-2022

Did You Get Served for Divorce Over the Thanksgiving Holiday?

If you got served over the Thanksgiving weekend for a divorce, I can help! One of my clients was served for divorce last year over the Thanksgiving holiday. He couldn’t believe it. He called me on Saturday of the holiday weekend and told me he ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Nov-2022

Need Help Divorcing a Verbally Abusive Spouse?

You are useless! So stupid! “Why did I ever marry you? You are always making me mad! It’s your fault I’m yelling at you! Sound familiar? If your answer is “Yes”, you are being verbally abused! But you don’t have to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Nov-2022

3 Ways to Prepare for Your Divorce Right Now!

Although we are all wondering when this financial crisis will subside, some of us are using this valuable time to prepare for life moving forward. Many couples living in bad marriages have had enough and are ready to move on with their lives. Now is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Nov-2022

Do You Need Help With Your Uncontested Divorce in New York?

As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I have guided many spouses through the divorce process. New York law allows couples to obtain an uncontested divorce when both parties agree to the divorce as well as have ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Nov-2022

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Oct-2022

Can't Locate Your Spouse to Divorce? Let Me Help You!

If you want a divorce but you and your spouse have been estranged and you don’t know how to locate your spouse, Divorce by Publication is your answer! In New York the legal system requires that you make every effort to find your spouse in order ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Oct-2022

Let Me Help You Start the Dreaded Divorce Conversation!

Ken and Andrea have been married for 16 years. They have an 8-year-old daughter on the autism spectrum. Ken is a tech specialist, and Andrea works part-time in an art gallery. For the past 3 years, Ken has been concerned that his wife has been in ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Oct-2022

Divorcing? Children? Holidays? Oh, No!

When you are a divorce attorney, inevitably holiday time for clients and their families is turbulent and for some, very chaotic and unhappy. Who do the children trick or treat with? Where do the children spend Thanksgiving? Who gets Hanukkah? What ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Oct-2022

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Oct-2022

How Do I Start the Divorce Process?

As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney/mediator I get lots of questions about divorce. If you are thinking of going through a divorce here is some information that will help you. Who can file for divorce in the State of New York? Any legally ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Sep-2022

Unhappy With Your Divorce Attorney? Get a Second Opinion!

I receive calls all the time from spouses who are not happy with the non-performance of their divorce attorney. Some of them feel their lawyer doesn’t know what he/she is doing, and others never hear from their attorney and have no idea ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Sep-2022

Attorney Lois Brenner's Divorce Checklist!

Divorce is messy, sad and often painful. It affects every aspect of your life. Asking questions important to you during your initial consultation with a divorce attorney/mediator is key to navigating your path to a successful divorce and hiring the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Sep-2022

Need Help Divorcing Your Abusive Wife?

When we think of spousal abuse we often hear the wife is being abused, but men get abused too! I have worked with a few men in the last year who all found themselves in very emotionally abusive relationships with their wives. The abuse then ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Sep-2022

Need Help Divorcing a Spouse With a Personality Disorder?

If you do, I have some unique, successful, legal and psychological strategies that can help! Is it hard to remember a time when your marriage was happy and you and your spouse were in-sync? Now it seems all you do is live in drama, there is lots of ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Sep-2022

Did Your Spouse Just Tell You They Want a Divorce?

Do you feel shocked? Angry? Sick? Scared? It is not unusual for a spouse to hear with no warning from the other that they want a divorce. This is painful and can be overwhelming. I receive calls, sometimes on Mondays or after a holiday weekend from ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Aug-2022

Divorce Story!

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Aug-2022

Get Divorced Now and Change Your Life!

I often tell my clients going through a divorce, the only predictability in life is change. We all dread and reluctantly develop coping mechanisms for managing the inevitable change that is part of being human, just as we are all adjusting to life ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Aug-2022

Need Help Divorcing a Controlling Spouse?

During a recent phone consultation, I spoke with a woman in her late 50s who tearfully explained she had no control over her life. Her husband managed everything in her life. He controlled what she wore, ate, where she went, who her friends were and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Aug-2022

Factors to Consider When Deciding How to Get Divorced!

For over 35 years I have successfully served the NYC area as a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator. Making the painful decision to leave your marriage is the biggest and hardest decision you may ever make. You cannot make this ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Aug-2022

My Survival Guide for Divorcing a Narcissist!

If you are going to divorce a narcissist, my survival guide will help you! Are you ready! Do you have what it takes? You will need to be brave! Come on! You can do it! And I can help… As a psychilogically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Aug-2022

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Aug-2022

How to Prepare for Your FREE Divorce Consultation!

Divorce is a common occurrence these days. Sadly, an estimated 40-50% of couples divorce. The problem is no one ever prepares us to get divorced. When faced with the possibility of divorce, we have no choice but to prepare ourselves. First, I suggest ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Aug-2022

I Need a Divorce! My Husband Is Cheating on Me and I'm Pregnant!

Here is an emaiI I received three months ago: My husband is cheating on me with two women and I am pregnant. One of them just gave birth to a baby girl. I am devastated and can’t believe my life looks like a reality show. I’m embarrassed ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Aug-2022

I've Been Served With a Summons for Divorce! What Should I Do?

If you have just been served with a summons for divorce, call me! As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator for over 35 years, I will be happy to explain what needs to be done. First, I will tell you that you have been formally put ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Jul-2022

Divorcing? Have Questions About Dividing Your Property?

When a marriage ends, there are many difficult decisions to make, including fair division of property. When a couple can work together using my unique mediation process, they can decide in a amicable environment how to split property, manage debts ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Jul-2022

I Want a Divorce! Can I Move Out of the Marital Residence?

The answer is No. Don’t do that! As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I tell clients when thinking of divorce not to leave their home. Making this move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized. I often ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Jul-2022

What to Do When Your Wife Wants a Divorce!

It is not unusual for a husband to all of a sudden hear from his wife that she wants a divorce. There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision; financial difficulties, another man, or a wife not wanting to be part of a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Jul-2022

Thinking About Separation or Divorce but You Are Afraid?

I know it’s scary. Separation or divorce is never an easy decision. You need understanding, support and a “voice of reason.” Whatever direction you choose, I’m here to answer all your questions, keep you on track and help you ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Jun-2022

Litigation? Mediation? Which Divorce Path Will You Choose?

There are two ways to get divorced in New York. One is litigation, the old traditional way in court. Both parties hire an attorney and they fight it out. The other path is the more progressive cost-effective process of mediation. An attorney/mediator ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Jun-2022

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Jun-2022

I'm Not Happy With My Divorce Attorney! What Should I Do?

As a divorce attorney/mediator for over 35 years, I have received hundreds of calls from spouses unhappy with their divorce representation. If your divorce attorney is not returning phone calls, answering emails, not listening to what you want, or ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Jun-2022

Are You Ready to Divorce Your Cheating Spouse?

Cheating during the pandemic was on the up rise and it hasn’t slowed down! Modern technology and social media allows you to meet people quickly and in some ways quietly. Some say emotional affairs are not cheating. However, there is a fine line ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Jun-2022

I'm Pregnant and Need a Divorce!

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have successfully helped many spouses navigate the complexities of divorce. Here is a text I received seven months ago months ago: I need your help! I am pregnant with ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Jun-2022

Are You Looking for a Way Out of a Miserable Marriage?

You may have been living for many years in an unhappy marriage and just not gotten the courage to do something about it. It's easy to keep putting it off because you know it will be unpleasant. But it’s time to be liberated. Stop ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Jun-2022

Let Me Answer All Your Questions About Divorce!

As a divorce attorney/mediator with over 35 years of experience, I get lots of questions about divorce. If you are thinking of going through a divorce here is some information that will help you. Who can file for divorce in the State of New York? Any ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Jun-2022

10 Ways to Ready Yourself and Your Finances for Divorce!

Even if you are not quite ready to get divorced, you need to be ready and Financially Prepared! Deciding to divorce is a complex process. Knowing how easy or difficult the process will be depends on you and how your spouse responds. The better ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Jun-2022

Divorce With Dignity Is Possible!

I often tell my clients going through a divorce, the only predictability in life is change. We all dread and reluctantly develop coping mechanisms for managing the inevitable change that is part of being human. In order to make good use of the curve ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-May-2022

Is Your Wife Abusing You?

I have worked with quite a few men over the last 35 years who all found themselves in very emotionally abusive relationships with their wives. In particular, in the last two years, abuse has heightened while couples were in quarantine due to the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-May-2022

Do You Know What The Grounds Are for Divorce in New York?

As a divorce attorney/mediator for over 35 years, I am often asked during a consultation about the grounds for divorce in New York. There are seven grounds for divorce. Irretrievable breakdown was added in 2010 as a legal reason – making it ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-May-2022

Are You Afraid to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce?

A player from a major league baseball team called my office and scheduled a phone consultation. His wife seemed to have bipolar disorder and/or depression. He had tried to cope with it for many years, especially as he was on the road a lot, but he ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-May-2022

Do You Have Questions About Equitable Distribution?

As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have been guiding many spouses successfully on the path to divorce. The more educated you are about divorce, the better decisions you can make. I receive all kinds of questions about support, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-May-2022

What to Do When Your Wife Wants a Divorce!

It is not unusual for a husband to all of a sudden hear from his wife that she wants a divorce. There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision; feeling neglected or abused, financial difficulties, or perhaps another man. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-May-2022

Let Me Help You Divorce Your Spouse That Cannot Be Found!

If you want a divorce but you and your spouse have been estranged and you don’t know how to locate your spouse, Divorce by Publication is your answer! In New York the legal system requires that you make every effort to find your spouse in order ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-May-2022

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-May-2022

Thinking If You Should Separate or Divorce?

If you ate thinking about separation or divorce, wWhatever direction you choose, I’m here to answer all your questions, keep you on track and help you meet your goals! With over decades of experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Apr-2022

Are You Over 50 and Considering a Divorce?

The pandemic and isolation over the last two years made many couples look more closely at some of the issues that have been eating away at their long-time marriages. The stigma of divorce has certainly changed since the 50s and 60s. Women have risen ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Apr-2022

Need a Second Opinion About Your Divorce Attorney's Advice?

I receive calls all the time from spouses who are wondering if their divorce attorney is giving them the best divorce advice. Are they getting the best settlement? Is their divorce attorney really fighting for them? They explain their case is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Apr-2022

Are You Wavering About Getting a Divorce?

I know. It’s a really big decision! You've probably been thinking about it for a long time. You may have already had a divorce consultation and still can’t decide. You’re wondering should I? Shouldn't I? Part of you thinks - ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Apr-2022

Is Social Media Ruining Your Marriage?

When a young woman called me and said, “Social media is ruining my marriage,” I told her I wasn’t surprised. Increasingly, social media is a chief complaint and cause of divorce. Couples don’t realize social media networking ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Apr-2022

Finance Savvy for Women Who Want to Divorce!

When considering divorce women’s number one concern is usually money! Now more than ever, women are taking control of their finances and acknowledging they need to be financially prepared if considering divorce. Even with this awareness, some ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Apr-2022

What Should Be Included in Your Separation Agreement?

Many spouses expect divorce to be an ongoing battle, but as a seasoned New York divorce attorney/mediator, I tell many spouses it doesn’t have to be! There are constructive ways to tackle divorce and create a battle-free zone that is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Mar-2022

Did Your Spouse Just Tell You They Want a Divorce?

If your spouse just told you they want a divorce, breathe! Know that you will be okay and I’m here to help! My role as a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator is to be supportive in a sad and difficult transition. I can pave the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Mar-2022

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Mar-2022

Have You Just Been Served With a Summons for Divorce?

If you have just been served with a summons for divorce, don’t worry I’m here to help! As a seasoned divorce attorney/mediator for more than 35 years, I will walk you through the process! I receive calls all the time from frantic spouses ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Mar-2022

Don't Be Afraid to Divorce Your Controlling Spouse!

During a recent phone consultation, I spoke with a woman in her late 50s who tearfully explained she had lost control of her life. Her husband had always controlled the finances even though she was part owner of their family business. She received a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Mar-2022

Are You Getting Bad Advice From Your Divorce Attorney?

I receive calls all the time from spouses who are not happy with the non-performance of their divorce attorney. Some of them feel their lawyer doesn’t know what he/she are doing, and others never hear from their attorney and have no idea ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Feb-2022

Tips on How to Talk to Your Spouse About Divorce

As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have helped thousands of spouses initiate discussions with their spouses about divorce. It is never an easy conversation, but when necessary, having the right approach is important! Teddy and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Feb-2022

Are You Properly Prepared to Divorce the Narcissist in Your Life?

If you’re not, and you want a divorce, you will need to be. I can help you! There are various healthy traits of narcissism in many of us. But then there is the actual diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). As a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Feb-2022

How to Decide Whether to Litigate or Mediate!

When considering divorce, clients are usually familiar with going to court and fighting. More and more clients are learning there are peaceful options for divorce. These days, during consultations, clients ask me whether they should ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Feb-2022

Are You Embarrassed to Admit Your Wife Is Abusing You? Don't Be!

Are You Embarrassed to Admit Your Wife Is Abusing You? Don’t Be! When we think of spousal abuse we often hear the wife is being abused, but men get abused too! I have worked with quite a few men over the last 35 years who all found themselves ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Feb-2022

Coping with Divorce While Pregnant!

Here is an email I received a few months ago: Dear Lois, Can I speak with you? I am pregnant and my husband has just announced he is leaving me for another woman. I feel sick! I just want to run away. I know I can’t. I don’t know what to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 31-Jan-2022

Need Help Coping With Divorce Anxiety During COVID?

Are you thinking about divorcing but afraid to take the first step? Do you get heart palpitations every time you start googling divorce attorneys? Yes, divorce anxiety is a real thing. As a psychologically-trained medical professional, mediator and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Jan-2022

Have You Been Served With a Summons for Divorce?

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator for over 35 years, I will be happy to explain what needs to be done. I will first tell you that you have been formally put on notice that your spouse has filed a petition for divorce. I will ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Jan-2022

Divorcing in 2022?

If you are divorcing in 2022, you are not alone! Divorce rates often rise early in the year and this year is no different. As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have been receiving a lot of phone calls this month from many ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Jan-2022

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories with you monthly. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect the privacy ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Jan-2022

Considering Divorce Due to COVID-19 Vaccine Differences?

I received a phone call 4 months ago from a spouse inquiring about divorce. She went on to say she and her husband of 11 years could not agree on taking the COVID-19 vaccine. She said, “I was absolutely shocked when my husband said he would not ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Jan-2022

Are Verbally Abusive Behaviors Affecting Your Marriage?

“Why did I ever marry you? You are useless! So stupid! You are always making me mad! It’s your fault I yell at you! Sound familiar? Yes, you are being verbally abused! But you don’t have to take it anymore! Verbally abusive ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Jan-2022

Can't Locate Your Spouse to Divorce? Try Divorce by Publication!

If you want a divorce but you and your spouse have been estranged and you don’t know how to locate your spouse, Divorce by Publication is your answer! In New York the legal system requires that you make every effort to find your spouse in order ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Jan-2022

My Husband Wants a Divorce. What Do I Do?

It is not unusual for a spouse to hear with no warning from the other that they want a divorce. This is especially true during and after the holidays. There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision. It could be another ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Jan-2022

Do you Know Your Marriage "Money Style?"

Money for most of us is an emotionally charged topic. That’s why few of us, and few couples, like to talk about it. When couples come to see me and are considering a divorce, money can actually be, yes, even more than infidelity, what is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Dec-2021

Do I Need an Attorney to Get Divorced?

We’ve all heard the horror stories from friends, newspapers, blogs and tabloids. The typical divorce can be a nightmare, and everybody loses. Except, maybe, the divorce attorneys, who get paid for their time while divorcing couples fight over ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Dec-2021

Can Mediation Help Your Domestic Partnership?

As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have helped thousands of couples in all kinds of relationships. You may be thinking, “What is a domestic partnership?” In New York, a domestic partnership is defined as a legal ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Dec-2021

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Dec-2021

Ways to Prepare for Your Divorce in the New Year!

Although we are all trying to enjoy the holidays and navigate this pandemic, some of us are using this valuable time to prepare for life moving forward as we look to a new year. Now is the time to take the necessary steps to make changes in your life ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Dec-2021

Have You Just Been Served With a Summons for Divorce?

I receive calls all the time - I actually received a few this past weekend - from frantic spouses saying, “I’ve been served with a summons for divorce, what do I do?” They were super surprised receiving a summons for divorce during ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Nov-2021

Are You Sitting on the Fence About Getting a Divorce?

I know divorce is a really big, difficult decision. You've probably been thinking about it for a long time. Should I? Shouldn't I? Yes, I really should. But what will it mean? How do I tell my spouse? What will happen to my kids? Will I have ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Nov-2021

Talking to Your Spouse About Divorce!

Adam and Luanne have been married for 12 years. They have 2 children 7 and 9 years old. Adam is an audio engineer, and Luanne works in pharmaceutical sales. For the past 3 years, Luanne has been concerned that her husband has been running up a lot of ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Nov-2021

My 5 Holiday Co-Parenting Tips!

During and after divorce it’s important to remember your children did not sign on to be your football. Many parents put their children right in the middle of their mess out of anger and pain. My advice? Don’t! Your children don’t ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Nov-2021

Is It Time to Investigate Your Spouse?

Do you ever feel like you can’t trust your spouse? Does your intuition tell you your spouse is not being truthful with you? I have had clients share with me their suspicions, and no, they weren’t paranoid, they were correct. Even though ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Nov-2021

Let Me Walk You Through the Divorce Process!

As a divorce attorney and mediator, I am often asked about the divorce process. After all, most of the time when a spouse calls me for a consultation, it is the first time they are getting divorced. As part of my consultations, I try to educate ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Oct-2021

Are You an Older Spouse Considering Divorce?

The divorce rate overall, has been declining for the past 40 years, except for individuals over 50. “Gray Divorces” have actually been on the rise! During the pandemic, many older spouses called asking about divorce. The pandemic and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Oct-2021

Let Me Help You Decide Whether to Litigate or Mediate!

When considering divorce, clients are usually familiar with going to court and fighting. More and more couples are learning there are effective, peaceful options. Some spouses want to fight but others don’t. Having a choice is a gift. Finding ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Oct-2021

Is It Time to "Divorce" Your Attorney?

If you are unhappy with your divorce attorney, and not getting the legal support you need, you should consider getting rid of your attorney! Why did you hire your divorce attorney? An impressive legal background? Great reviews? A family referral? ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Oct-2021

My Divorce Dont's!

As a divorce attorney/mediator for over thirty-five years, I’ve seen many spouses make some bad divorce mistakes. Most of the time decisions fueled by anger will not be in your best interest. Please don’t do it! I know you’re angry, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Oct-2021

What You Need to Know About Divorce!

As a divorce attorney/mediator I get lots of questions about divorce. If you are thinking of going through a divorce, here is some information that will help you. Who can file for divorce in the State of New York? Any legally married person who meets ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Oct-2021

Is It Time to Divorce Your Controlling Spouse?

During a recent phone consultation, I spoke with a woman in her late 30’s who tearfully explained she was married to an abusive man. Her husband had taken total control of her life and she needed help. She further explained he was reading her ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Oct-2021

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Oct-2021

Need Help With Your High Net Worth Divorce?

As a New York divorce lawyer for more than 35 years, I have handled many financially complex, high net worth, and celebrity divorces. Let’s face it, divorce is never easy, but divorces involving large amounts of money, property, and other ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Sep-2021

Tips for Talking to Your Spouse About Divorce!

Peter and Angela have been married for 10 years. They have a 6-year-old son with anger issues. Peter is a pilot, and Angela is a jewelry designer. For the past year, Angela has been concerned that her husband has been in denial about their ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Sep-2021

Thinking of Divorce? Don't Move Out!

As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I tell clients when thinking of divorce to never to leave their home. Making this move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized. I often hear from clients that once divorce ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Sep-2021

Are You Experiencing Divorce Anxiety?

Are you thinking about divorcing but afraid to take the first step? Is the thought of getting a divorce keeping you up at night? Do you get heart palpitations every time you start googling divorce attorneys? Yes, divorce anxiety is a real thing. As a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Sep-2021

What Are the Grounds for Divorce in New York?

As a divorce attorney/mediator for over 35 years, I am often asked during a consultation about the grounds for divorce in New York. There are seven grounds for divorce. Irretrievable breakdown was added in 2010 as a legal reason – making it ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Sep-2021

Going Through a Divorce? Put Your Children 1st!

With children going back to school and couples scrambling to fix their schedules and organize their lives, some spouses are also thinking of changing their lives. For some that means pursuing a divorce. However, with an eye on a brighter future and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Sep-2021

Divorcing? Take Your First Step, Call Me!

I often tell my clients going through a divorce, the only predictability in life is change. We all dread and reluctantly develop coping mechanisms for managing the inevitable change that is part of being human, just as we are all adjusting to life ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Sep-2021

Ready to Divorce Your Cheating Spouse?

Shortly after U.S lockdowns began due to the pandemic, cheating in marriages started to increase with the help of technology and it has continued to soar! Modern technology and social media allow you to meet people quickly and in some ways quietly. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Aug-2021

Did Your Spouse Just Tell You They Want a Divorce?

Has your spouse just told you your marriage is over, broken your heart, caused sadness in your family? It is not unusual for a spouse, without warning, to hear from the other that they want a divorce. There can be a lot of factors influencing a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Aug-2021

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Aug-2021

Need Help With Your High Net Worth Divorce?

Divorce is never easy, but divorces involving large amounts of money, property, and other assets are even more challenging. In addition to the types of issues present in typical divorces, such as spousal and child support, child custody, visitation ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Aug-2021

Divorcing? Tips for Smooth Visitation with Your Children!

When a divorce occurs it not only affects the spouses but the entire family. For both parents and children during and after a divorce, maintaining healthy relationships with your children is a must. Visitation, unfortunately, is very often a sad ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Aug-2021

5 Financial Mistakes to Avoid in Your Divorce Settlement

As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have seen many spouses make lots of financial mistakes. The biggest mistake divorcing spouses make is being kept in the dark about finances. If your spouse has always handled all of the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Aug-2021

Spouses Are Lawyering Up for Divorce After Surviving Lockdown!

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I have spoken with many sad, angry spouses over the last two years during the ongoing pandemic. Being locked up together wreaked havoc on many marriages. Spouses spoke up, acted out, and my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Aug-2021

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Jul-2021

Need Help With Your Divorce?

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I have spoken with many sad, angry, conflicted spouses over the last two years during the ongoing pandemic. Being locked up together wreaked havoc on many marriages. Spouses spoke up, acted ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Jul-2021

Uncontested Divorce in New York!

As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have guided many spouses through the divorce process. New York law allows couples to obtain an uncontested divorce when both parties agree to the divorce as well as agreeing to spousal support, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Jul-2021

Divorce for Business Owners!

Divorces for people who own businesses are different from those of wage earners. First of all, businesses often have cash income which is not declared on tax returns. This makes it difficult to estimate or trace the cash. Businesses are assets, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Jul-2021

Is It Time to Fire Your Divorce Attorney?

If your attorney is not doing a good job, it’s time to kick him or her to the curb! Why did you hire your divorce attorney? Whatever the reason, if you are not happy with your divorce lawyer, and they’re not doing a great job for you, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Jul-2021

Divorce Story!

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Jun-2021

How to Talk to Your Kids About Divorce!

When couples marry and have children and build a future together, they don’t think divorce will be part of the process, but sadly for many it is! For children, watching or living in a combative environment can be very unhealthy. Sometimes a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Jun-2021

Tips for Talking to Your Spouse About Divorce!

Gareth and Lena have been married for 12 years. They have a 5-year-old son with behavioral problems. Gareth is an engineer, and Lena works part-time as a paralegal. For the past 3 years, Gareth has been concerned that his wife has been in denial ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 31-May-2021

"Gray Divorces" Are on the Rise!

The divorce rate overall has been declining for the past 40 years except for individuals over 50. “Gray Divorces” are actually on the rise! It’s not surprising that Bill and Melinda Gates recently announced they were getting ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-May-2021

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-May-2021

Divorcing? Mediate or Litigate?

When spouses call me these days they are usually looking for direction. They have decided to divorce, and have googled and researched everything about divorce, but they are not sure what to do. They have read about going to court, negotiation and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-May-2021

Do You Want to Divorce a Controlling Spouse?

During a recent phone consultation, I spoke with a woman in her late 40s who tearfully explained she had no control over her life. Her husband had multiple separate bank accounts and was cutting back on her “spending money,” which he gave ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-May-2021

Divorce Can Change Your Life! For the Better!

I often tell my clients going through a divorce, the only predictability in life is change. We all dread and reluctantly develop coping mechanisms for managing the inevitable change that is part of being human, just as we are all adjusting to life ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Apr-2021

Do You Want to Divorce an Abusive Wife?

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney/mediator for over 35 years, I have helped many women in abusive relationships, but I’ve also helped abused men too! Men abused by their wives are entitled to be believed, heard, and helped. A man ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Apr-2021

What to Do When Your Spouse Serves You With a Summons for Divorce!

I receive calls all the time from frantic spouses saying, “I’ve been served with a summons for divorce, what do I do?” As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator for over 35 years, I explain three things. First, I ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Apr-2021

Divorcing? Get Your Estate in Order!

Divorce is scary, unpleasant, and, for some, painful. It’s an extremely difficult time emotionally for the entire family. I work with divorcing couples all the time who share their sadness, frustration, and unhappiness with me. Divorce can be a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Apr-2021

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Apr-2021

Grounds for Divorce in New York

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have successfully guided thousands of spouses through the divorce process. During my free consultations, I receive all kinds of questions. Often, I am asked about the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Apr-2021

Divorcing a Spouse With a Personality Disorder!

Is your marriage filled with hostility, frustration, drama and chaos? Are your efforts to improve the situation constantly ridiculed and shot down? As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can tell you there might be a lot more ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Apr-2021

Do You Want a Separation or Divorce?

Whatever direction you choose, I’m here to keep you on track and help you meet your goal! With decades of experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been successfully guiding spouses through the separation and divorce process. I can ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Apr-2021

I Am a Dependent Spouse. I Have No Money to Divorce!

Yes you do, and I can get if for you! I had a new client a few months ago who was terrified when she called me. She was married to a very rich art dealer who was extremely controlling. He liked to control everything, from his money, to his ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Apr-2021

Advice for Your High Net Worth Divorce!

Divorce is never easy, but divorces involving large amounts of money, property, and other assets are even more challenging. In addition to the types of issues present in typical divorces, such as spousal and child support, child custody, visitation ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 31-Mar-2021

Divorcing? To Punish or Not to Punish?

The divorce industry is plagued with the motto, “Fight! Fight! Fight!” It’s time for a welcome change! When considering divorce, couples are usually familiar with going to court and fighting. More and more couples are learning there ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Mar-2021

Mistakes to Avoid When Divorcing!

I have been a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years. I have successfully helped thousands of spouses through the most difficult times of their lives. I have helped them mediate, negotiate, and litigate. Over this past turbulent year, I have ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Mar-2021

5 Tips for Talking to Your Spouse About Divorce!

Josh and Leslie have been married for 12 years. They have a 5-year-old daughter with behavioral problems. Josh is a National Hockey League executive, and Leslie works as an accountant. For the past two years, Josh has been concerned that his wife has ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Mar-2021

Spring Cleaning Divorce Tips!

With Spring right around the corner, the change of season comes with the deep desire to start getting rid of the old and bringing in the new. Cleaning out the closets, getting organized, opening up the windows, and airing out the house. It feels ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Mar-2021

Ever Wonder if Your Spouse Is Hiding Assets?

During my free one-hour consultations it is not unusual for me to hear, “I think my spouse is hiding assets. I have no idea what assets we have or where they are. What do I do?” As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Mar-2021

Are You Finally Ready to Leave Your Marriage?

You may have been living in an unhappy marriage and just didn’t have the courage to do anything about it. It's easy to keep putting it off because you know it will be unpleasant. But now, after struggling through a pandemic for the past ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Mar-2021

Do You Need Help Divorcing an Addict?

Spouses faced with addiction being a third party in their relationship generally find divorce as their only way out. As a psychologically- trained medical professional and divorce attorney, I have a unique approach to guiding couples through divorce ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Mar-2021

Do You Need a Parenting Agreement?

Even with both parents living in the same home, co-parenting during COVID-19 has been a big challenge. Now, in addition, consider co-parenting during a separation or divorce. This process is even harder. But you will get through it, and I’m ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Feb-2021

What Women Need to Know to Financially Prepare for Divorce!

There are over 10 million female-owned businesses in America. These companies are generating more than $2.5 trillion. Now more than ever, women need to take control of their finances. With the pandemic these female-owned businesses are struggling and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Feb-2021

Do You Want to Fire Your Divorce Attorney?

If you are unhappy with your divorce attorney, you should consider it! Why did you hire your divorce attorney? An impressive legal background? Great reviews? A family referral? Whatever the reason, if you are not happy with your divorce lawyer, and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Feb-2021

Lois Brenner's Divorce Advice!

Divorce is traditionally a painful process, but it doesn’t have to be anymore! To help you with your divorce goals, I’m sharing my suggestions for protecting yourself, your family, and your finances. As a psychologically-trained divorce ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Feb-2021

Divorcing? To Fight or Not to Fight?

When considering divorce couples are usually familiar with going to court and fighting. More and more couples are learning there are more peaceful options. People ask me more about the difference between “litigation” and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Feb-2021

Is Your Spouse Paying the Taxes?

It’s that time of year again. Dreaded tax time is around the corner! For those getting a divorce, taxes are the least of their worries. But let me share a story with you that will open your eyes and make you think twice. Last year after ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Feb-2021

Are You Looking for a "Gray Divorce?"

A Gray Divorce refers to a demographic trend that has seen an increase in the separation or divorce of older couples who have been married for a long time. Divorce rates for couples over 50 have doubled in the past decade. These divorces affect ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Feb-2021

Dads Are Much More Than Just Child Support Payments!

When a married couple goes through a divorce, one of the most contested issues is often their children. As a psychologically-trained mediator and divorce attorney for more than 35 years, I’ve seen countless custody disputes. For many years, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Feb-2021

Surviving Divorce as a Stay-at-Home Mom!

Are you wondering how you are going to survive financially if divorce comes knocking at your door? I received a phone call over the weekend from a devastated spouse who said, “I can’t believe it, I have been married, I thought happily for ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Jan-2021

Is a Narcissistic Spouse Destroying Your Life?

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I uniquely guide couples, especially those with behavioral problems, towards dignified divorces. Many of the couples I work with complain that narcissism is an unhealthy third party in their ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Jan-2021

I Want a Divorce. Should I Leave The Marital Residence?

The answer is, “No!” I tell clients never to leave their home (or hardly ever). Making this move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized. I often hear from clients that once divorce is on the table it is extremely ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Jan-2021

Divorcing? Try Divorce Mediation During the Pandemic! It will Save You Money, Time and Pain!

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I am juggling tons of emails and phone calls from clients divorcing and spouses thinking of divorcing during the coronavirus pandemic. These couples’ issues began way before the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Jan-2021

Don't Make A Divorce Mistake!

When people decide to divorce it is usually in the whirlwind of heightened emotion. People are not always thinking rationally in this mindset. I often caution clients not to be reactive when thinking about divorcing. I suggest they stop, think, and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Jan-2021

Is It Time to Divorce Your Addicted Spouse?

Spouses faced with addiction being a third party in their relationship generally find divorce to be their only way out. As a psychologically-trained medical professional and divorce attorney, I have a unique approach to guiding couples through ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Jan-2021

What to Do When Your Spouse Wants a Divorce!

It is not unusual for a spouse to hear with no warning from the other that they want a divorce. There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision. It could be another woman or man, a midlife crisis, psychological issues, or ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Jan-2021

7 Signs Your Spouse May Be Cheating!

Do you lie awake at night and wonder? Do you have a feeling in the pit of your stomach most of the time? You know something is not quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it. Do you think your spouse is cheating? Are you afraid to ask? Do ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Jan-2021

My Best 2021 Divorce Advice!

Divorce is traditionally a painful and dreaded process, but it doesn’t have to be as painful as you think! To help you with your 2021 divorce goals, I’m sharing my suggestions for protecting yourself, your family, and your finances. As a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Jan-2021

Is It Time to Get Rid of Your Divorce Attorney?

Why did you hire your divorce attorney? An impressive legal background? Great reviews? A family referral? Whatever the reason, if you are not happy with your divorce lawyer, and they’re not doing a great job for you, it’s time to let them ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Jan-2021

Can a Postnuptial Agreement Save Your Marriage in 2021?

With the New Year upon us many couples are re-examining their marriages and wondering how they can make their lives better, especially in these challenging times. Some couples consider a prenuptial agreement when they are getting married. But what if ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Dec-2020

5 Tips on Keeping Your Children 1st While Going Through a Divorce

With the New Year almost upon us, many couples are setting goals for 2021 in the pursuit of happiness for themselves and their family. For some couples, the attainment of these objectives involves the dissolution of their marriage. However, with an ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Dec-2020

Do You Know You Don't Need a Lawyer to Divorce?

You may have just heard the dreaded “D” word pass your spouses lips. You feel sad, lonely, and scared. But you don’t have to be! We’ve all heard the horror stories from friends, newspapers, blogs, and tabloids. The typical ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Dec-2020

Are You Suffering from Divorce Anxiety?

As a psychologically-trained medical professional, mediator, and divorce attorney, I can spot divorce anxiety right away. I often hear and see the symptoms before my clients do. Why wouldn’t divorce be stressful? There are so many negative ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Dec-2020

Are You Being Verbally Abused?

Are you walking on eggshells? Criticized? Being isolated? Then you may be in an abusive relationship. This is a lot more common than you may think, and there is a way out! Many spouses who consult with me start telling me their marriage stories of ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Dec-2020

Is Your New Year's Resolution to Separate or Divorce?

If you are looking at divorce in the new year, I’m here to guide you, keep you on track, and help you meet your divorce goal in 2021! Do you know there is a National Divorce Day? It’s true, and it's shortly after Christmas and New ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Dec-2020

Divorcing? Remember Your Spouse Is No Longer Your "Best Friend"

Divorce is often a rude smack in the face. On your wedding day, if you are lucky, you married your best friend. But now with the wear and tear of life, you have grown apart, you are no longer “in love,” and divorce is your new paradigm. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Dec-2020

Is Your Spouse Spying on You?

Do you ever feel like you are being watched? Well, maybe you are. I have had clients share with me their suspicions, and no they weren’t paranoid, they were correct. Even though you trust your spouse, do you know if they trust you? I had a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Dec-2020

Is COVID-19 Affecting Your Bipolar Spouse?

These are very difficult times. People already suffering from mental health issues are suffering even more. Couples in unhappy marriages are now pressured by losing their jobs, juggling their childrens’ schooling issues, and managing their ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Dec-2020

10 Financially Smart COVID Divorce Tips!

Even if you are not quite ready to get divorced, you need to be informed and Financially Smart. Deciding to divorce is a complex process. How easy or difficult the process will be depends on you and how your spouse responds. The better prepared you ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Dec-2020

4 Ways to Prepare for Your COVID Divorce!

Although we are all wondering when this pandemic will be over, some of us are using this valuable time to prepare for life moving forward. Maybe you want to take some classes, start an exercise program, change careers, or plan to start a family. As a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Nov-2020

Are You a High Conflict Couple Looking for a COVID Divorce?

As a divorce attorney and mediator, I can tell you divorce litigation is very rarely a positive process. Mediated and negotiated settlements are increasingly popular, especially among divorcing couples in today’s COVID-19 climate. A high ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Nov-2020

5 Tips for Surviving an Unhappy Marriage During the Coronavirus Pandemic!

The coronavirus has changed our everyday lives beyond our understanding. We are all trying to be strong, go with the flow, and find creative ways to cope. Then there are those of us unhappily locked up with our spouse or significant other in an ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Nov-2020

We Have Divorce Support During the Coronavirus Pandemic and the Holidays!

I know that thinking about or getting a divorce under the best of circumstances is an overwhelming experience. Divorcing while dealing with the Coronavirus is the last thing you need. And now with the holidays upon us, yet another layer of stress is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Nov-2020

Divorcing Dads Love Their Children Too!

When a married couple goes through a divorce, one of the most contested issues is often their children. As a psychologically-trained mediator and divorce attorney for more than 35 years, I’ve seen countless custody disputes. For many years, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Nov-2020

What Should Be Included in Your Separation Agreement?

Many spouses expect divorce to be an ongoing battle, but as a seasoned New York divorce attorney and mediator, I tell many spouses it doesn’t have to be! There are constructive ways to tackle divorce and create a battle-free path that is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Nov-2020

Divorce and the Family Business!

Divorces for people who own businesses are different from those of wage earners. First of all, businesses often have cash income which is not declared on tax returns. This makes it difficult to estimate or trace the cash. Businesses are assets, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Nov-2020

4 Tips to Protect and Build Your Credit Score After Divorce!

Divorce simply put, is a mess! It’s emotional, financial and painful! Even after the divorce is complete you can be left with lingering effects. This is especially true when it comes to your credit. During a divorce you often have to untangle ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Nov-2020

Can I Get Spousal Maintenance?

As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have received lots of questions about divorce. There are so many issues that must be handled when a couple decides to file for divorce. One issue that many divorcing couples are forced to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Nov-2020

High Net Worth Divorce Mistakes!

High Net Worth Divorce cases can be complicated and highly emotional. The proceedings (litigation) or negotiations (mediation) can be exhausting as both parties wrestle for what they feel they deserve. As a skilled high net worth divorce ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Nov-2020

Let Me Answer Your Questions About Equitable Distribution!

As a divorce attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I have been guiding many spouses on the process of divorce. The more educated you are about divorce, the better decisions you can make. Today I am going to answer some of your questions about ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Nov-2020

Divorcing? Children? Holidays? Oh, No!

When you are a divorce attorney, inevitably holiday time for clients and their families is turbulent and for some, very unhappy. Where do the children spend Thanksgiving? Who gets Hanukkah? What about Christmas? New Years’? Even though your ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Oct-2020

I Can Guide You on How to Talk to Your Spouse About Divorce!

The day you walked down the aisle and said, “I do” was probably one of the best days of your life. You never anticipated a time when you would be asking your spouse for a divorce. But time has passed, a lot of unhappiness has crept into ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Oct-2020

Need Help Deciding Whether You Should Litigate or Mediate?

When considering divorce, many people are familiar with going to court and fighting. But more and more couples are learning there are more peaceful options. These days, during consultations clients ask more about the difference between ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Oct-2020

7 Signs You Are Being Controlled by Your Spouse

During a recent phone consultation I spoke with a woman in her 40s who tearfully explained she had no control over her life. Her husband had multiple separate bank accounts and was cutting back on her “spending money,” which he gave her ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Oct-2020

Tips for Managing Depression and Anxiety During Divorce

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear from spouses all the time about their depression and anxiety. The pain, turmoil, and chaos of divorce can be terrifying to some. Unfortunately, depression and anxiety are not unusual ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Oct-2020

10 Brenner Divorce Tips!

Even if you are not quite ready to get divorced, you need to be informed and financially smart. Deciding to divorce is a complex process. Deciding how easy or difficult the process will be depends on you and how your spouse responds. How well or ill ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Oct-2020

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Oct-2020

You Can Divorce Without a Lawyer!

We’ve all heard the horror stories from friends, newspapers, blogs and tabloids. The typical divorce can be a nightmare and everybody loses except, maybe, the divorce attorneys, who get paid for their time while divorcing couples fight over ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Oct-2020

Is Sole Custody in Your Child's Best Interest?

As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator it is unusual these days to see one parent asking for the sole physical custody of the children. I recently consulted with a client who was insisting on this. This type of request can ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Oct-2020

Taking Your First Divorce Step!

When did you start thinking about divorce? Was it during the coronavirus pandemic? Was it because of finances, fighting, infidelity, control issues, social media postings, or did you simply fall out of love? Couples don’t just wake up one day ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Oct-2020

What is a Statement of Net Worth?

What is a Statement of Net Worth? When divorcing, a Statement of Net Worth is that annoying financial form your attorney/mediator sticks in front of you and says, “Fill it out!” You look at it, start sweating, and think, “Oh no! ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Sep-2020

5 Warning Signs You Are In an Unhealthy Relationship!

As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can often spot the signs of an unhealthy relationship. My advice in some cases is to seek therapy. In other cases, I strongly suggest they consider divorce. After speaking with a spouse ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Sep-2020

My Spouse is Hiding Assets! What Can I Do?

During my free one-hour consultations it is not unusual for me to hear, “I think my spouse is hiding assets. I have no idea what assets we have, or where they are. What do I do?” At many of my seminars, as a divorce attorney and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Sep-2020

Is Social Media Killing Your Marriage?

When a young woman called me and said, “Social media killed my marriage,” I told her I wasn’t surprised. More and more this is a chief complaint and cause for divorce. Couples don’t realize social media networking can be the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Sep-2020

Is Your Spouse Cheating on You?

Do you lie awake at night and wonder? Do you have a feeling in the pit in your stomach most of the time? You know something is not quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it. Do you think your spouse is cheating? Are you afraid to ask? Do ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Sep-2020

Is Poor Mental Health Destroying Your Marriage?

We see all kinds of abusive relationships in the news but do you know many marriages end today because one party is dealing with mental health issues that result in abusive behaviors that destroy marriages? Today a person facing divorce Googles ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Sep-2020

5 Helpful Tips to End Your Marriage in the Age of Coronavirus

Getting divorced is the last thing a couple wants to think about in the midst of losing jobs, facing illness, stock markets fluctuating, routines being disrupted, and deciding on how to school your child safely. But don’t let the coronavirus ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Sep-2020

3 Tips for Dividing Property in Your Divorce!

When a marriage ends there are difficult decisions to make including fair division of property. When a couple can work together using my mediation process, they can decide together how to split property, debts, and assets. When mediation is not ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Sep-2020

Are You a Man in an Abusive Relationship?

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have worked with a few men in the last six months who all found themselves in very emotionally abusive, and sometimes physically abusive, relationships with their wives. The abuse was ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Sep-2020

5 Tips for Choosing the Right Financial Advisor to Help With Your Divorce

Choosing a financial advisor to assist while you are divorcing is a major life decision that can determine your financial future for years to come. As a divorce attorney and mediator, I have a team of experts to assist my clients with various aspects ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 31-Aug-2020

5 Signs You Are Married to Someone with a Personality Disorder

Is your marriage surrounded by hostility, frustration, drama, and chaos? Are your efforts to improve the situation constantly ridiculed and shot down? As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can tell you there might be a lot ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Aug-2020

For Millennials Divorce is a "Simpler" Affair!

I have worked with quite a few millennial couples recently who have embraced their divorce with a maturity and dignity that is new to me. They enthusiastically embrace mediation because it is amicable, less expensive, and not quite as time consuming ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Aug-2020

Co-Parenting During COVID 19 While Children Go Back to School

Even with both parents living in the same home, co-parenting during COVID 19 has been a big challenge. Now consider co-parenting during a separation or divorce. This process is even harder. But you will get through it, and I’m here to help! ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Aug-2020

Divorce Story!

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Aug-2020

6 Steps to End a Toxic Marriage

Relationships that have unhealthy patterns like abuse, infidelity, addictions, and so on, are more common than you think. This is a serious problem, and its affects can be paralyzing. Lots of people on the outside often wonder why you stay in an ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Aug-2020

7 Grounds for Divorce in New York

During a consultation a spouse will often ask me about grounds for divorce in New York. There are seven grounds for divorce. Irretrievable breakdown was added in 2010 as a legal reason – making it possible for many more people to divorce. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Aug-2020

BEWARE! It's Time to Divorce the Narcissist In Your Life!

Aren’t we all slightly narcissistic? The answer is, “Yes.” There are various healthy traits of narcissism in many of us. But then there is the actual diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder. As a psychologically-trained ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Aug-2020

Do You Need Help With Your Divorce Checklist?

Divorce affects every aspect of your life. Asking questions important to you during your initial consultation with a divorce attorney/mediator is key to navigating your path to a successful divorce. Preparing for your divorce consultation is an ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Aug-2020

What You Need To Know About The Divorce Process

As a divorce attorney and mediator, I am often asked about the divorce process. After all, most of the time when a spouse calls me for a consultation, it is the first time they are getting divorced. As part of my consultations, I try to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Aug-2020

Who Can You Trust With Your High Net Worth Divorce?

Divorce litigators want you to think your complex or high value estate divorce can only be fairly resolved by courtroom litigation. This is false. In fact, spouses with high net worth have a great deal to gain via mediation, as well as much to lose ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Aug-2020

Thinking of Divorce During This Turbulent Time?

Divorce is not something you planned for when you walked blissfully down the aisle. Imagine also having to manage your family and finances during this turbulent time surrounded by a pandemic. If you are thinking of divorce, now more than ever, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 31-Jul-2020

3 Tips for Managing Divorce Anxiety

Yes, divorce anxiety is a real thing! Divorce conjures up all kinds of stress, and fear! As a psychologically-trained medical professional and divorce attorney, I can spot divorce anxiety right away. I often see the symptoms before my clients do. Why ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Jul-2020

Litigation? Mediation? Which Path Will You Choose?

There are two ways to get divorced in New York. One is litigation, the old traditional way in court. Both parties hire an attorney and they fight it out. The other path is the new, more progressive process of mediation. An attorney/mediator guides a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Jul-2020

7 Signs Your Spouse is Hiding Assets

When a client comes to see me to discuss divorce, it is not unusual for me to hear I think my spouse is hiding assets. I have no idea what assets we have, or where they are. What do I do?” I advise couples getting married to pay attention to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Jul-2020

8 Tips to Reduce the Effects of Divorce on Your Children!

Divorce is very difficult and an especially confusing time for children. Couples often get caught up in their own anger, drama, and the messy divorce process; the desire for revenge and the division of property and finances. But, who is looking out ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Jul-2020

Divorce Story!

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Jul-2020

Are You Entitled to Rehabilitative Maintenance?

As a divorce attorney and mediator it is my responsibility to inform clients of what they are entitled to when considering a divorce. Women, in particular, don’t realize they may be entitled to Rehabilitative Maintenance. For those of you who ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Jul-2020

The 3 P's of Divorce Mediation! Positive, Productive & Peaceful

For over 35 years I have served the NYC area as a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator. After witnessing the pain of many couples day after day, I decided to develop a unique mediation process to address divorce in a more humane and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Jul-2020

What Women Need to Know to Financially Prepare for Divorce!

There are over 10 million female-owned businesses in America. These companies are generating more than $2.5 trillion dollars. Now more than ever, women need to take control of their finances. Women are more financially successful than ever before! ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Jul-2020

5 Signs Your Spouse has a Personality Disorder!

As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I receive many calls from spouses who talk about their marriages that are filled with drama, hostility, verbal abuse, and high intensity. When I hear some of these descriptions, I often ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Jul-2020

Top 5 Reasons to Have a Prenuptial Agreement

If there is anything we have learned during this pandemic (besides vigorous hand washing), it is the amazing power of technology. We are fortunate to live in a digital age where information is at our fingertips. We can easily plan anything from our ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Jul-2020

I Want a Divorce. Should I Move Out?

The answer is usually, “No!” I tell clients never to leave their home. Making this move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized. I often hear from clients that once divorce is in the air it is extremely difficult ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Jul-2020

How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce!

A player from a major league baseball team called my office and scheduled a phone consultation. His wife seemed to have bipolar disorder and/or depression. He had tried to cope with it for many years, especially as he was on the road a lot, but he ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Jul-2020

What to Do When Your Husband Wants a Divorce!

It is not unusual for a wife to all of a sudden hear from her husband that he wants a divorce. There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision; another woman, a midlife crisis; and sometimes financial difficulties. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Jun-2020

I am a Dependent Spouse. Do I Have to Pay My Legal Fees?

I had a new client last year who was terrified when she called me. She was married to a very rich philanthropist who was extremely controlling. He liked to control everything, from his money, to his businesses, to her. In spite of their enormous ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Jun-2020

Are You Wavering About Your Divorce?

It's a big decision. You've been thinking about it for a long time. Should I? Shouldn't I? Yes, I really should. But what will it mean? How do I tell my spouse? These are the questions I often hear from people who consult with me. Usually ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Jun-2020

5 Things You Need to Know About Child Support!

What is Child Support: Child support is financial support provided by the noncustodial parent. It includes cash payments based on the parent's income and the needs of the child,health insurance, payments for child care, and payments for ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Jun-2020

Nannies to Nobility Love Mediation!

Since I have been practicing over 35 years I have had an amazing array of clients from nannies to nobility. Regardless of a client’s position in life the 3 P’s of Mediation is appealing to all - Positive, Productive, and Peaceful. About ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Jun-2020

Will I Receive Spousal Support?

I’ve been speaking with a lot of spouses recently who are concerned about whether or not they will receive spousal support. It is a fair question. There are many issues that must be handled when a couple decides to file for divorce. One issue ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Jun-2020

Litigation vs. Mediation: To Punish or Not to Punish?

When considering divorce clients are usually familiar with going to court and fighting. More and more clients are learning there are more peaceful options. These days, during consultations clients ask more about the difference between ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Jun-2020

Divorce Story

As a divorce attorney, and psychologically-trained mediator I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Jun-2020

4 Reasons to say "Goodbye" to your Divorce Lawyer!

Why did you hire your divorce attorney? An impressive legal background? Great reviews? A family referral? Whatever the reason, if you are not happy with your divorce lawyer, and they’re not doing a great job for you, it’s time to them to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Jun-2020

It's Time for Change! Taking your First Divorce Step!

I often tell my clients going through a divorce, the only predictability in life is change. We all dread and reluctantly develop coping mechanisms for managing the inevitable change that is part of being human, just as we are all adjusting to life ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Jun-2020

Child Custody Challenges During the Pandemic!

As a divorce attorney and mediator with over 35 years of experience, I’ve seen it all! Nothing surprises me. But divorce cases I am handling during COVID -19 have been real eye-openers. Fortunately, I have some great solutions!! A devoted dad, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Jun-2020

Divorce Mediation - The Peaceful Alternative!

During these difficult times of medical confusion, loss of jobs, and socially painful unrest, as a divorce attorney and mediator, I am happy to offer spouses a peaceful approach to divorce. It gives me great pleasure to offer a productive alternative ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Jun-2020

Did You Know Divorce Can Ruin Your Credit Score?

If you are thinking about getting a divorce, your credit score may be the last thing on your mind, but you’d better think twice. Divorce can greatly impact your finances and credit history. Even the most amicable divorce can leave you in ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Jun-2020

DIVORCE: With or Without Lawyers!

It’s true! The courts will be opening up again soon! The backlog will be brutal, and for many of you thinking of divorce going to court may be unnecessary! Why go to court when you can divorce without lawyers. You will avoid the turmoil of the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-May-2020

Do You Know Your "Marriage Money Style?"

Money for most of us is an emotionally charged topic. That’s why few of us and few couples like to talk about it. When couples come to see me and are considering a divorce, money can actually be, yes, even more than sex, what is driving the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-May-2020

6 Mistakes to Avoid in a High Net Worth Divorce

Divorce is never easy, but divorces involving large amounts of money, property, and other assets are even more challenging. In addition to the types of issues present in typical divorces, such as spousal and child support, child custody, visitation ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-May-2020

5 Spring Cleaning Divorce Tips

With the change of season comes the deep desire to start getting rid of the old and bring in the new. Cleaning out the closets, getting organized, opening up the windows, and airing out the house. It feels good!! Now that many of us are still staying ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-May-2020

Did You Know a Postnuptial Agreement can Save Your Marriage?

Getting married is very exciting! Spring is that time of year when brides are eagerly gearing up for their June weddings and all the glitz, glamour and drama that a wedding brings virtually in this new world in which we are living! But what about the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-May-2020

3 Tips for Handling Divorce Anxiety!

Yes, divorce anxiety is a real thing. As a psychologically-trained medical professional, mediator and divorce attorney, I can spot divorce anxiety right away. I often hear and see the symptoms before my clients do. Why wouldn’t divorce be ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-May-2020

5 Tips to Help You Talk to Your Spouse about Divorce while in Quarantine

Kevin and Laurie have been married for 15 years. They have a 6 year old daughter with behavioral problems. Kevin is a financial planner, and Laurie works part-time as a computer programmer. For the past 2 years, Kevin has been concerned that his wife ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-May-2020

Men Get Abused Too!

When we think of spousal abuse we often hear the wife is being abused, but men get abused too! I have worked with a few men in the last six months who all found themselves in very emotionally abusive relationships with their wives. The abuse then ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-May-2020

Top 10 Reasons to Have a Prenuptial Agreement

If there is anything we have learned during this pandemic (besides vigorous hand washing), it is the amazing power of technology. We are fortunate to live in a digital age where information is at our fingertips. We can easily plan anything from our ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-May-2020

How are You Handling Your Marital Issues During this Pandemic?

With social distancing our “new normal” and many states maintaining a shelter-in-place mandate, unhappy couples are stuck at home with no escape. With school cancelled, no babysitters to help, working at home, caring for children and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-May-2020

What is a "Gray Divorce?"

A Gray Divorce refers to a demographic trend that has seen an increase in the separation or divorce of older couples who have been married for a long time. Divorce rates for couples over 50 have doubled in the past decade. These divorces affect ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-May-2020

Is Your Spouse Depressed?

As a New York divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator I hear from a lot of spouses who want a divorce because they have realized they have been living the horrors of being married to a narcissist or sociopath. But there are other ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-May-2020

When Divorcing - 3 Tips for Getting Your Estate in Order

Divorce is unpleasant. It’s an extremely difficult time emotionally. I work with divorcing couples all the time who share their sadness, confusion, anxiety and unhappiness with me. It’s a big struggle. When divorcing there is a lot to do, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-May-2020

Divorcing Safely During a Pandemic!

Being quarantined together is difficult even for those of us in good relationships. For couples going through divorce, or about to go through divorce and in a dysfunctional relationship, it’s a nightmare! Right now, due to the Corona virus ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Apr-2020

Am I Entitled to Spousal Support?

As a divorce attorney and mediator I hear this question all the time. Spousal support can be a little tricky. Did you know spousal support is not guaranteed? Did you know spousal support (alimony) can be paid by husbands or wives? The purpose behind ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Apr-2020

4 Ways to Prepare for Your Divorce During Quarantine!

Although we are all wondering when this pandemic will be over, some of us are using this valuable time to prepare for life moving forward. Now is the time to take the necessary steps to make changes in your life that you may have been putting on the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Apr-2020

Are You a High Conflict Couple?

As a divorce attorney and mediator I can tell you divorce litigation is very rarely a positive process. Mediated and negotiated settlements are increasingly popular especially among divorcing couples in today’s COVID-19 climate. A high conflict ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Apr-2020

Getting a Divorce with a Business in the Family

Divorces for people who own businesses are different from those of wage earners. First of all, businesses often have cash income which is not declared on tax returns. This makes it difficult to estimate or trace the true income. Businesses are ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Apr-2020

4 Financial Mistakes to Avoid When Divorcing During this Panic!

1.) NOT CONSIDERING MEDIATION: ESPECIALLY NOW ! If there is any chance you and your spouse can work together in an amicable way - consider mediation ! Even if you are angry with each other mediation can work. Mediation will save you time and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Apr-2020

Why I Suggested My Client Quarantine with His Ex-Wife and Her Boyfriend!

These days, as a divorce attorney and mediator, I help clients virtually using my mediation process, which, especially now, helps clients save money, time and maintain safety. Two weeks ago, I helped a divorced couple with what is by far one of my ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Apr-2020

Can a Legal Separation Help Couples Struggling During the Coronavirus Pandemic?

Over the last few weeks I have spoken with couples who are really struggling with their marriages. These couples are sad, confused and not quite sure what path to take. They often say, “I don’t know what to do, I’m ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Apr-2020

5 Ways to Stay Sane While Locked Up in an Unhappy Marriage During the Coronavirus Pandemic!

The coronavirus has changed our everyday lives beyond our understanding. We are all trying to be strong, go with the flow, and find creative ways to cope. Then there are those of us unhappily locked up with our spouse or significant other in an ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Apr-2020

Cheating During the Coronavirus Pandemic!

Even though we are busy battling the coronavirus, I recently received an emergency call from a man who had just discovered his wife was having an affair. He had gone to his wife’s phone to check for the time for a teleconference with his ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Apr-2020

The Courts are Closed but Did You Know You Can Divorce Without Going to Court?

That’s right! This coronavirus pandemic has drastically affected all of you wanting a divorce! But as a very skilled divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator I can tell you, there is a welcome solution. It’s called Mediation. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Apr-2020

Are You Married to a Narcissist?

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator I uniquely guide couples, especially those with behavioral problems, towards dignified divorces. Many of the couples I work with complain that narcissism is an unhealthy third party in their ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Mar-2020

Are You Living in a Miserable Marriage? It's Time to GET OUT!

You may have been living in an unhappy marriage and just not gotten the courage to do anything about it. It's easy to keep putting it off because you know it will be unpleasant. But now, due to the coronavirus pandemic, you are stuck at home 24/7 ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Mar-2020

Mediation: A Superior Solution for Divorcing Spouses and their Families during the Coronavirus Pandemic!

As a divorce attorney & psychologically-trained mediator I am juggling tons of emails and phone calls from clients divorcing and spouses thinking of divorcing during the coronavirus pandemic. These couples’ issues began way before the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Mar-2020

Do You Need Help Divorcing an Addict?

Actor Ben Affleck recently said his divorce from actress Jennifer Garner was the biggest regret of his life. Unfortunately, his alcohol addiction contributed to the dissolution of their marriage. Spouses faced with addiction being a third party in ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Mar-2020

8 Things to Include in Your Separation Agreement

Are you and your spouse thinking of divorce? Are you familiar with a separation agreement? The first step in the process of divorce after the couple has negotiated their “deal” is the drafting of a separation agreement. This is a legal ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Mar-2020

Are You Thinking of Divorcing During the Coronavirus Pandemic?

I know that thinking about or getting a divorce, under the best of circumstances, is an overwhelming experience. Divorcing while dealing with the Coronavirus is the last thing you need. Unfortunately, anger, abuse, infidelity, neglect, and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Mar-2020

I Want a Divorce. Should I Move Out?

The answer is, “No!” I tell clients never to leave their home (or hardly ever). Making this move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized. I often hear from clients that once divorce is in the air it is extremely ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Mar-2020

You Don't Need an Attorney to Get a Divorce!

It’s true! If you are unhappy in your marriage and you have tried everything, the clock is ticking and it’s time to harness the power to manage your own divorce with my groundbreaking psychologically-infused divorce mediation method that ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Mar-2020

Do You Have a Right to a Family Business in Divorce?

Divorce is no doubt an emotional nightmare, but it is also a financial and legal separation of a couple, and their family. When considering divorce, spouses have a lot to consider financially like budgets, assets, property and retirement accounts. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Mar-2020

Divorce Tips for a Stay-at-Home Spouse!

Are you wondering how you are going to survive financially if divorce comes knocking at your door? I received a phone call over the weekend from a devastated spouse who said, “I can’t believe it, I have been married, I thought happily for ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Mar-2020

Dads are Much More than just Child Support Payments!!

When a married couple goes through a divorce, one of the most contested issues is often their children. As a psychologically-trained mediator and divorce attorney for more than thirty-five years, I’ve seen countless custody disputes. For many ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Feb-2020

My Best 2020 Divorce Advice!

Divorce is traditionally a painful and dreaded process, but it doesn’t have to be as awful as you expect! To help you with your 2020 divorce goals, I’m sharing my suggestions for protecting yourself, your family and your finances. As a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Feb-2020

Don't Sign That Prenuptial Agreement Until...

You have a family law attorney review what you are signing. Often a couple, about to enter a marriage, will go to an attorney to have a prenuptial agreement drafted. A prenuptial agreement is not just for the rich and famous! A prenuptial agreement ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Feb-2020

Are you sure Your Spouse is Paying the Taxes?

It’s that time of year again. Dreaded tax time is coming up! Everyone is scrambling right now to get all their documents together to get them to their accountant. For those getting a divorce, taxes are the least of their worries, or so you ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Feb-2020

5 Warning Signs - It's Time to Change Attorneys!

Is your divorce attorney not returning your calls or emails? Do you meet with your attorney and feel they don’t really remember the details of your case? Is there poor communication or no communication? Are you not getting the attention from ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Feb-2020

4 Valentine's Day - Healthy Marriage Tips!

As you know Valentine’s Day is Friday! Yay!! Traditionally couples in the millions get engaged on this day. Being a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator in the love and divorce business for over thirty-five years, sadly, I ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Feb-2020

What to Do when your Spouse Wants a Divorce!

It is not unusual for a spouse to hear with no warning from the other that they want a divorce. There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision; another woman or man, a midlife crisis, psychological issues and sometimes ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Feb-2020

5 Things You Should Know About Child Support!

1. What is Child Support: Child support is financial support provided by the noncustodial parent. It includes cash payments based on the parent's income and the needs of the child, health insurance, payments for child care, and payments for ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Feb-2020

Tips to Avoid Divorce Disasters

When people decide to divorce it is usually in the whirlwind of heightened emotion. People are not always thinking rationally in this mindset. I often caution clients not to be reactive when thinking about divorcing. I suggest they stop, think and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Jan-2020

Divorcing? Remember your Spouse is no longer your "Best Friend"

Divorce is often a rude smack in the face. On your wedding day, if you are lucky, you married your best friend. But now with the wear and tear of life, you have grown apart, you are no longer “in love” and divorce is your new paradigm. As ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Jan-2020

Did you know You May Not be Entitled to Spousal Support?

Thinking of divorce? Are you worried about how you will survive financially? Not all spouses are entitled to support. Not everyone has to pay spousal support. Each circumstance is unique based on the details of your marriage. So if you are trying to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Jan-2020

Is Your Spouse Spying on You?

Do you ever feel like you are being watched? Well, maybe you are. I have had clients share with me their suspicions, and no they weren’t paranoid, they were correct. Even though you trust your spouse, do you know if they trust you? I had a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Jan-2020

3 Tips to Settle a Child Custody Dispute

As a seasoned family law attorney, mediator, and psychologically-trained medical professional, I regularly counsel mothers and fathers going through divorce who are considering a custody action. Often these concerned parents have a fair amount of ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Jan-2020

What is Equitable Distribution?

Upon divorce, marital property in New York State is supposed to be divided equitably. It is not an "equal" or automatic 50-50 distribution between spouses, as it is in community property states like California. Marital property is property ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Jan-2020

10 Signs You are in a Verbally Abusive Relationship!

Many people who come to me for a consultation have no idea that they are in a verbally abusive relationship. They know that something is wrong, but they can't put their finger on it. As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney I can identify ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Jan-2020

Is Your New Year's Resolution to Separate or Divorce?

If it is, I’m here to keep you on track and help you meet your goal! Did you know Monday, January 6 this year was dubbed “Divorce Day”? This was the day people returned to work and decided they had enough, wanted out of their ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Dec-2019

Tips to Divorce-Proof your Relationship in the New Year!

New Years is right around the corner. Traditionally, many couples get engaged on New Year’s Eve. Being an attorney in the field of family law for more than thirty-five years, I expect that some of the New Year’s engagements will end in ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Dec-2019

10 FINANCIAL DIVORCE TIPS YOU SHOULD KNOW!

Even if you are not quite ready to get divorced, or know someone who might be, you need to be informed and Financially Smart. Deciding to Divorce is a complex process. Deciding how easy or difficult the process will be depends on you and how your ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Dec-2019

The Pros and Cons of Sole Custody of the Children!

As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator it is unusual these days to see one parent asking for the sole physical custody of the children. I recently met with a client who was insisting on this. This type of request can sometimes be ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Dec-2019

Did you Know you can Divorce Without Lawyers?

Divorce? Oh no! We’ve all heard the horror stories from friends, newspapers, blogs and tabloids. The typical divorce can be a nightmare, and everybody loses. Except, maybe, the divorce attorneys, who get paid for their time while divorcing ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Dec-2019

5 Tips for Co-Parenting During the Holidays!

The greatest wish of many children of divorce during the holidays is that Mom and Dad will get back together. Even though the sad truth is that this probably is not going to happen, you as responsible parents can cooperate, and make the holidays as ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 9-Dec-2019

What is a Statement of Net Worth?

When divorcing, a Statement of Net Worth is that annoying financial form your attorney/mediator sticks in front of you and says, “Fill it out!” You look at it, start sweating, and think, “Oh no! Where do I start?” I find that ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Dec-2019

4 Tips for Handling Divorce Anxiety During the Holidays!

Yes, divorce anxiety is a real thing. As a psychologically-trained medical professional and divorce attorney, I can spot divorce anxiety right away. I often see the symptoms before my clients do. Why wouldn’t divorce be stressful? There are so ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Nov-2019

Lois Brenner's New York Divorce 101!

When did you start thinking about divorce? Was it because of finances, fighting, infidelity, control issues, social media postings, or did you simply fall out of love? Couples don’t just wake up one day and decide they want a divorce. A lot of ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Nov-2019

4 Tips to Avoid Divorce Disaster!

Litigation sucks! No doubt. I try to help clients avoid it whenever possible. But sometimes it’s the only way to have a spouse sit up and listen. But make no mistake, if you are not mentally aware and legally prepared your divorce can be a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Nov-2019

Is Social Media Killing Your Marriage?

When a young woman called me and said, “Social Media Killed My Marriage,” I told her I wasn’t surprised. More and more this is a chief complaint and cause for divorce. Couples don’t realize social media networking ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Nov-2019

Are You Living with a Controlling Spouse?

My new client seemed very anxious and started twirling her hair around her finger. She started by telling me that she was very concerned because her husband kept separate bank accounts and he was cutting down on the “spending” money he ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Nov-2019

My Separation Agreement Checklist!

Are you thinking of Divorce? Well, you’re not alone. With 40%-50% of all marriages ending in divorce this is not as uncommon as you think. An important part of the divorce process is developing an agreement you can both live with. An agreement ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Nov-2019

Could your Spouse be Bipolar?

A divorcing couple came to see me for mediation. The husband had significant outstanding credit card bills. He also drank quite a bit. The wife wanted a divorce and they had one child. Whenever we had a meeting, the husband dominated the meeting, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Nov-2019

5 Signs you are Married to a Psychopath!

As a divorce attorney I meet all kinds of people from all walks of life. I have found many clients don’t always realize the kind of person they are married to. For example, some clients are married to someone with a character disorder and they ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Nov-2019

10 Signs your Spouse may be Cheating!

Do you lie awake at night and wonder? Do you have a feeling in the pit of your stomach most of the time? You know something is not quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it. Do you think your spouse is cheating? Are you afraid to ask? Do ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Oct-2019

Is Your Spouse Hiding Assets?

When a client comes to see me to discuss divorce it is not unusual for me to hear “I think my spouse is hiding assets. I have no idea what assets we have, or where they are. What do I do?” At many of my seminars, I advise couples getting ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Oct-2019

5 Signs You are in an Unhealthy Relationship!

As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney I can often spot the signs of an unhealthy relationship even before my clients do. My advice in some cases is to seek therapy, in others I strongly suggest they consider divorce. If you see yourself ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Oct-2019

IS YOUR SPOUSE A NARCISSIST?

You would be very surprised to learn that psychological problems plague many divorcing couples today, and they don’t even know it. That is until now! When you look at the complex issues that infect families like verbal and physical abuse, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Oct-2019

To Trick or Treat?

What divorcing/divorced parents can do so Halloween isn’t a nightmare! When you got divorced did you discuss Halloween as part of your visitation schedule? Probably not. After all, it’s not Thanksgiving, Christmas or Hannukkah! It is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 18-Sep-2019

Poor Mental Health Destroys Marriages!

We see all kinds of abusive relationships in the news but do you know many marriages end today because one party is dealing with mental health issues that result in abusive behaviors that destroy marriages? Today a person facing divorce Googles ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Sep-2019

5 Co-Parenting Tips!

During and after divorce it’s important to remember your children did not sign on to be your football. Many parents put their children right in the middle of their mess out of anger and pain. My advice? Don’t! Your children don’t ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Sep-2019

Stay-at-Home Moms and Dads can Survive Divorce!!

Are you wondering how you are going to survive your divorce financially? There are many spouses who married young or gave up lucrative careers to have children once they were married. They often spend most of their marriage helping to support and, in ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Aug-2019

3 Financial Mistakes to Avoid When Divorcing!

1.) NOT CONSIDERING MEDIATION: If there is any chance you and your spouse can work together in an amicable way- consider mediation! Mediation will save you time and thousands of dollars in legal fees, not to mention unnecessary heartache! As a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Jul-2019

EXPERIENCE THE HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL BRENNER DIVORCE MEDIATION METHOD!

What is the first thing you think of when you hear the word “divorce?” “Fight!” Hire a Lawyer.” This is the way it’s been ever since the founding of our country, when we imported the British legal model for divorce ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Apr-2019

6 Spring Cleaning Divorce Tips

6 SPRING CLEANING DIVORCE TIPS Yeaaay! Spring is finally here! I thought it would never come. With the change of season comes the deep desire to start getting rid of the old and bring in the new. Cleaning out the closets, getting organized, opening ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Mar-2019

Is Your Spouse Paying Taxes?

Is Your Spouse Paying the Taxes? It’s that time of year again. Dreaded tax time! For those getting a divorce, taxes are the least of their worries. But let me share with you a story that will open your eyes and make you think twice. After ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Feb-2019

DIVORCE PROOF YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

DIVORCE PROOF YOUR RELATIONSHIP! Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Traditionally couples in the millions get engaged on this day. Being in the field of family law as an attorney for more than thirty-five years, I expect that fifty ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 4-Jan-2019

DIVORCE MEDIATION MATTERS TO MILLENIALS

DIVORCE MEDIATION MATTERS TO MILLENIALS The millennial generation, born between 1980-2000, are enthusiastically embracing Divorce Mediation. Millenials are different from Generation X and Baby Boomers. They are tech savvy, play well with others, they ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Dec-2018

Five Ways to Survive the Holidays During a Divorce

Five Ways to Survive the Holidays During a Divorce Going through a separation or divorce during the holidays can be really dreadful! This time of year you are expected to be festive and to behave as if things are good. On the inside you’re ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Nov-2018

Divorcing? Children? Holidays? Oh, No!

Divorcing? Children? Holidays? Oh, No! When you are a divorce attorney inevitably holiday time for clients and their families is turbulent and for some, very unhappy. Where do the children spend Thanksgiving? Who gets Hanukkah? What about Christmas? ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Sep-2018

Your Divorce Checklist!

Your Divorce Checklist! You have been busy shopping for clothes and school supplies. You’ve been busy preparing the children to go back to school, and now they have settled in. This is the time of year when once the children are focused and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. featuring Michael Giusto, Esq. 20-Sep-2018

What Happens to Your Estate Plan When You Divorce?

What Happens to Your Estate Plan When You Divorce? By Michael Giusto and Lois Brenner Getting a divorce is a stressful experience and it’s not unusual for spouses to forget to address estate planning issues either before, during, or afterwards. ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Jul-2018

3 Best Methods to Settle a Custody Dispute

3 Best Methods to Settle a Custody Dispute Last week, I read that Nia Vardalos, the My Big Fat Greek Wedding (funny movie!) star, and Ian Gomez sadly filed for divorce after 25 years of marriage. They cited irreconcilable differences and asked for ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Jul-2018

DIVORCE: With or Without Lawyers!

DIVORCE: With or Without Lawyers! I have been educating clients and the public for many years on how divorce doesn’t always have to be down and dirty. Divorce can be handled in a variety of ways. I can help you explore your options. You can ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Jun-2018

MORE MILLENNIALS SEEK PRENUPS!!

MORE MILLENNIALS SEEK PRENUPS!! It’s that time of year again when many couples will be walking down the aisle. To have or not to have a prenuptial agreement is not the most romantic conversation to have as you are tasting wedding cake fillings ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-May-2018

DO ROYALS HAVE PRENUPS?

DO ROYALS HAVE PRENUPS? Should you? When anyone ties the knot there is a lot at stake, but when you’re Royal that usually includes a whole lot of money! You may be surprised to learn when it comes to the royal family in England, prenups are ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-May-2018

Is Your Spouse Hiding Assets?

Divorcing? Is Your Spouse Hiding Assets? When a client comes to see me to discuss divorce it is not unusual for me to hear “I think my spouse is hiding assets. I have no idea what assets we have, or where they are. What do I do?” At many ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 6-Apr-2018

Are you ready to build your "Bird Nest?"

Are you ready to build your “Bird Nest?” Have you all seen the new show “Splitting Up Together”? It is a new series that airs Tuesday nights at 9:30 PM on ABC. It is about a couple that falls out of love, (as many do these ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Apr-2018

Can a Postnuptial Agreement save your Marriage?

Can a Postnuptial Agreement save your Marriage? Getting married is very exciting! Spring is that time of year when brides are eagerly gearing up for their June weddings and all the glitz, glamour and drama that a wedding brings. But what about the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Mar-2018

GET YOUR "FREE" DIVORCE PERSONALITY QUIZ!!!!

GET YOUR “FREE” DIVORCE PERSONALITY QUIZ!!!! Head (Legal Strategy) + Heart (Emotions) “Unlike any other Divorce Attorney” Lois M. Brenner, Esq., PA-C, is a renowned New York Divorce Attorney, an accredited Divorce Mediator and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Mar-2018

ARE YOU ENTITLED TO SPOUSAL SUPPORT?

ARE YOU ENTITLED TO SPOUSAL SUPPORT? Sometimes clients are confused as to how spousal support works. As a psychologically-trained mediator and divorce attorney, I often define what spousal support is and how it applies to a couple’s situation ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 2-Mar-2018

FINANCIAL DIVORCE "SMARTS"

FINANCIAL DIVORCE “SMARTS” Are you financially ready to get divorced? Even if you are not quite ready to get divorced, you need to be informed and Financially Smart. Deciding to Divorce is a complex process. Deciding how easy or difficult ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Feb-2018

Father's Rights: More than Just Child Support Payments

Father’s Rights: More than Just Child Support Payments “The heart of a father is the masterpiece of nature.” - Abbé Prévost, Manon Lescaut When a married couple goes through a divorce, one of the most contested issues ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Feb-2018

Lois Brenner In The News!

Till Trump do us part: The president's effect on US marriages By Jade Scipioni Published February 13, 2018 Personal Finance FOXBusiness Couples still have not altered their political affiliations and... Trump still do so,” Lois Brenner, a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Feb-2018

FOUR TIPS TO DIVORCE PROOF YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

FOUR TIPS TO DIVORCE PROOF YOUR RELATIONSHIP! Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Traditionally, millions of couples get engaged on this day. Being an attorney in the field of family law for more than thirty-five years, I expect that ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Jan-2018

Divorce Without Lawyers

DIVORCE WITHOUT LAWYERS What is the first thing you think of when you hear the word “divorce?” “Fight!” “Hire a divorce lawyer.” For 2017 Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, and Janet Jackson and Wissma al Mana come to ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Dec-2017

Tips for Handling Divorce Anxiety!

Tips for Handling Divorce Anxiety! Yes, divorce anxiety is a real thing. As a psychologically-trained medical professional and divorce attorney, I can spot divorce anxiety right away. I often see the symptoms before my clients do. Why wouldn’t ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Dec-2017

Five Ways to Survive the Holidays During a Divorce

Five Ways to Survive the Holidays During a Divorce Going through a separation or divorce during the holidays can be really dreadful! This time of year you are expected to be festive and to behave as if things are good. On the inside you’re ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Nov-2017

I Want a Divorce. Should I Move Out?

I Want a Divorce. Should I Move Out? The answer is, “No!” I tell clients never to leave their home. Making this move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized. I often hear from clients that once divorce is in the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Oct-2017

What to Do When Your Husband Wants a Divorce!

What to Do When Your Husband Wants a Divorce! It is not unusual for a wife to hear from her husband that he wants a divorce. There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision; a midlife crisis; reuniting with an old love on ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Aug-2017

Your Back to School - Divorce Checklist!

Your Back to School - Divorce Checklist! The summer is coming to a close :( It’s back to school! You have been busy shopping for clothes and school supplies. You’ve been busy preparing the children to go back to school, and for some of ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 27-Jul-2017

Signs your Divorce Attorney is Not Right for You!

Signs your Divorce Attorney is Not Right for You! Just a little advice. If you’re getting divorced don’t hire the real estate attorney that helped you on the closing of your home. Guess what? He/she probably doesn’t know the ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Jul-2017

Coping with Divorce While Pregnant

COPING WITH DIVORCE WHILE PREGNANT Here is an email I received a few months ago: Dear Lois, Can I come to see you? I am pregnant and my husband has just announced he is leaving me for another woman. I feel sick! I just want to run away. I know I ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Jul-2017

5 Signs You May Be Married to a Sociopath

5 SIGNS YOU MAY BE MARRIED TO A SOCIOPATH No one has the perfect marriage. We all struggle with our spouse about something. That’s normal. But when you feel like you are living outside of your own body and life because the person you love and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Jun-2017

Men Get Abused Too!

Often when we think of spousal abuse we often hear the wife is being abused, but men get abused too! I have worked with a few men in the last few months who all found themselves in very emotionally abusive relationships with their wives. For a man, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Jun-2017

Does Your Marriage Need a Postnuptial Agreement?

Does Your Marriage need a Postnuptial Agreement? Getting married is very exciting! It’s June-Wedding month and bride’s are eagerly gearing up for their summer weddings and all the glitz, glamour and drama a wedding brings. But what about ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-May-2017

The Lois Brenner Divorce!

THE LOIS BRENNER DIVORCE! Where Head (Legal) Meets Heart (Psychology) When it comes to divorce you don’t often hear an attorney refer to divorce using both head and heart, but at Lois M. Brenner, Esq., we do! As a divorce attorney, mediator and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Apr-2017

Dispelling the Myths of Child Custody vs. Visitation

Child Custody vs. Visitation Recently I’ve had couples of young children calling me with questions about custody. Often, these parents have little idea that custody to which they’re referring is actually a question of visitation. In fact, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 31-Mar-2017

5 Red Flags That You're in an Abusive Relationship

5 Red Flags That You’re in an Abusive Relationship It’s Time to Get Out! Every woman who thinks she is the only victim of violence has to know that there are many more. — Salma Hayek It is often said, “the meek will inherit ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Mar-2017

Don't Sign That Prenuptial Agreement Until...

Don’t Sign That Prenuptial Agreement Until… You have a family law attorney review what you are signing. Often a couple, about to enter a marriage, will go to an attorney to have a prenuptial agreement drafted. A prenuptial agreement is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Jan-2017

A Better Way To Divorce in 2017!

Did you know January is Divorce month? Most couples who have been thinking about divorce tend to move forward in the New Year. They have struggled to make it through the holidays and now they want a fresh start. What most couples don’t know is ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 15-Dec-2016

Tips for Handling Divorce Anxiety!

Tips for Handling Divorce Anxiety! Yes, divorce anxiety is a real thing. As a psychologically-trained medical professional and divorce attorney, I can spot divorce anxiety right away. I often see the symptoms before my clients do. Why wouldn’t ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Dec-2016

Is Social Media Killing Your Marriage?

When a young woman called me last week and said, “Social Media Killed My Marriage,” I told her I wasn’t surprised. More and more this is a chief complaint and cause for divorce. Couples don’t realize social media networking ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 23-Nov-2016

Surviving Difficult Conversations About the Election this Thanksgiving

Are you worried about political disagreements ruining family time this Thanksgiving? Lois was recently interviewed by Vogue and gave some tips on how to keep things civil with family members over the holidays. Here's a snippet of her advice from ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Nov-2016

Is Your Spouse Cheating On You?

Do you lie awake at night and wonder? Do you have a feeling in the pit in your stomach most of the time? You know something is not quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it. Do you think your spouse is cheating? Are you afraid to ask? Do ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Oct-2016

Are you thinking of pulling the plug on your marriage?

Courtesy of HBO Sarah Jessica Parker’s new show “Divorce” on HBO which aired on October 9 th introduces us to Frances (Parker), a corporate headhunter with two children. She is an unhappy, middle-aged, and a disconnected woman ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 22-Sep-2016

When Should You Ask For Sole Physical Custody of the Children?

WHEN SHOULD YOU ASK FOR SOLE PHYSICAL CUSTODY OF THE CHILDREN? On Tuesday we heard the sad news that Angelina Jolie filed for divorce from Brad Pitt after twelve years together, and two years married. The papers file in Los Angeles cited ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 16-Sep-2016

Is Your Spouse A Sociopath?

You would be very surprised to learn that psychological problems plague many divorcing couples today, and they don’t even know it. That is until now! When you look at the complex issues that infect families like verbal and physical abuse, ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Aug-2016

Are you a Divorcing Stay-at-Home Mom?

There are many women who married young or gave up lucrative careers to have children once they were married. They often spend most of their marriage helping to support and in some cases build their husband’s careers/businesses in the best ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Aug-2016

What Determines The Length And Amount of Spousal Maintenance?

There are many issues that must be handed when a couple decides to file for divorce. One issue that many divorcing couples are forced to deal with during the divorce process includes spousal maintenance, which is the money paid to a spouse following ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Jul-2016

Common Mistakes in High Net Worth Divorces

Divorce is never easy, but divorces involving large amounts of money, property, and other assets are even more challenging. In addition to the types of issues present in typical divorces, such as spousal and child support, child custody, visitation ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Jul-2016

8 Reasons Why You Should Consider a Prenuptial Agreement

With wedding season upon us, it is important for couples to consider creating prenuptial agreements before walking down the aisle. While some people look upon prenuptial agreements negatively, it should be understood that they are designed to protect ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Jun-2016

Who Pays for a Child's Summer Camp When Parents are Divorced?

When summer comes around, many children are interested in attending summer camps with their friends, youth groups, or classmates. In addition, many parents with children take interest in such camps when they are required to work full-time hours and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Jun-2016

Questions About Summer Vacations with Shared Children

When children who attend school are released for summer vacation, parents’ schedules change greatly. Although these summer schedules can greatly differ for any family, divorced parents with shared children may suffer many more anxieties and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-May-2016

Protecting Your Business in a Divorce

Your business is likely one of the most valuable assets you own – the product of countless hours of work and a huge amount of resources. You’ve nurtured it and grown it into what it is today, so it belongs to no one but you and your ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 29-Mar-2016

Navigating the Divorce Process: Know Your Options

If you are contemplating a divorce in New York, you know that this isn’t a decision you should make hastily. It is important to know your options as well as the various ways in which you can achieve your end goal. It is also equally important ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 11-Feb-2016

Why Do Divorce Rates Sky-Rocket in February?

Although most people believe February’s most important date is the 14 th, when chocolates and gifts are exchanged between lovers, a recent study has shown that divorce has become increasingly popular during the month of February. In fact, data ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Jan-2016

Proposals & Prenups: How Can a Lawyer Help?

Many couples are eagerly preparing for a romantic Valentine’s Day. Many couples will get engaged on Valentine’s Day like pop star Lady Gaga and actor Taylor Kinney did last year. Suddenly everyone is swept away by love, planning a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 13-Jan-2016

Why is January Known as "Divorce Month?"

In our previous blog, we discussed why the New Year can be a good time for a fresh start if you have been considering divorce. For a variety of reasons, many people choose to wait until the start of the New Year to begin divorce proceedings, making ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 30-Dec-2015

Thinking About Divorce in 2016?

It’s that time of year when we are about to sip champagne and ring in the New Year. The celebrity buzz is Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert of country music stardom have called it quits and their divorce will be well underway in 2016. Couples ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 1-Dec-2015

Divorcing? Children? Holidays? Oh, No!

When you are a divorce attorney, inevitably holiday time for clients and their families is turbulent and for some, very unhappy. Where do the children spend Thanksgiving? Who gets Hanukkah? What about Christmas? New Years? Even though your divorce is ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 2-Sep-2015

Divorce Check List!

Divorce affects every aspect of your life so choosing the right attorney to help navigate you through a successful divorce is key. Once you have selected the right attorney, the next step is to properly prepare for the first meeting. Make a list of ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 4-Aug-2015

Mistakes Couples Make When Divorcing!

Divorce is not something you planned for when you walked down the aisle. Imagine also having to manage your family and finances during this sad, turbulent time. Now more than ever it’s important to make good, sound decisions! The problem is ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 24-Jul-2015

Custody Battle Over a Child Yet to Be Born!

You probably know Sherri Shepard as a comedienne and most notably as a chat host on “The View” on ABC television. Now we know Sherri Shepard as a woman entangled in a divorce war with her TV writer husband Lamar Sally. But more ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 27-Jun-2015

Divorce. With or Without Lawyers

I am so excited to share with you the development of my new book “Divorce: With or Without Lawyers!” I have been educating clients and the public for many years on how divorce doesn’t always have to be down and dirty. Divorce can be ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 15-May-2015

Negotiating to Get What You Deserve: Part 3

How active should you be in the negotiations? That will depend largely on the state of your emotions. The basic fact is that you are the principal – your lawyer is there to advise you and represent you, but what is being decided is your ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 14-May-2015

Negotiating to Get What You Deserve: Part 2

But most divorces are far from amicable. The couples involved are too hurt, angry, or insecure to work out an agreement on their own. They will need their lawyers not only to protect their rights but to serve as their advisers and negotiators in what ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 13-May-2015

Negotiating to Get What You Deserve: Part 1

All the statistics point in the same direction: For many men, divorce is an expensive inconvenience. Despite their complaints, they have enough money left to live much as they always have and, if they choose, marry again and support a new family. For ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 28-Apr-2015

Postnuptial Agreement

Getting Married is very exciting! Spring is that time of year when brides are eagerly gearing up for their June weddings and all the glitz, glamour and drama a wedding brings. But what about after the wedding day? Are you truly prepared for the ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 9-Apr-2015

Conscious Uncoupling and Divorce Mediation

Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced their separation this week and described it as a “conscious uncoupling” over at Goop, Gwyneth’s personal website. Their statement read they had “come to the conclusion that while we ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 9-Apr-2015

Divorce and Childhood Obesity

The impact of divorce is truly a family affair. This is very evident in the expanding waist lines of children of divorce. As a family law attorney and medical professional I hear the horror stories from clients all the time on how their divorce is ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 28-Feb-2015

Divorce and Taxes

Here are Tax Tips to help you! 1) Alimony or Child Support Deductions: If you are awarded alimony in a divorce it is stipulated in your separation agreement. If you are the party paying alimony, you can usually deduct alimony on your tax return, ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 3-Feb-2015

Divorce Proof Your Relationship

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Traditionally couples in the millions get engaged on this day. Being in the field of family law as an attorney for more than thirty years, I expect that fifty percent of those Valentine’s Day ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 12-Nov-2014

Have You Got Financial "Divorce Smarts?"

Even if you are not quite ready to get divorced, or know someone who might be, you need to be informed and Financially Smart. Deciding to Divorce is a complex process. Deciding how easy or difficult the process will be depends on you and how your ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 14-Oct-2014

5 Red Flags That You're in an Abusive Relationship - and It's Time to Get Out

It is often said, “the meek will inherit the earth,” but unfortunately sometimes the meek also inherit abusive relationships. In society we typically think of “meek” as being weak and subservient; but there are also those who ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 15-Sep-2014

Know Your "Marriage Money Style"

“Divorce is expensive. I used to joke they were going to call it ‘all the money,’ but they changed it to ‘alimony.’ It’s ripping your heart out through your wallet.” Robin Williams Money is an emotionally ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 18-Aug-2014

Why Women's Financial Needs are Different

There are over 10 million female-owned businesses in America. These companies are generating more than $2.5 trillion dollars. Now more than ever, women need to take control of their finances. Women are more financially successful than ever before! ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 11-Jun-2014

Where There's a Will, There's a Way!

You would be surprised at the number of people who don’t have one. Of course, part of this can be explained by the fact that people do not like to think about death – especially their own. So they put off preparing a will, and put it off, ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 4-Mar-2014

Tax Season 101: Is Your (Former) Spouse Actually Paying Taxes?

Here’s a hypothetical based in reality: three years ago you were going through a divorce. Your former spouse (who was also the primary breadwinner at the time) had their accountant give you paperwork to sign that said you acknowledge that all ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 2-Jan-2014

A New Year and a New You... Is Divorce Right For You?

December and January—the time of year when both gifts and the financial year are wrapped and focus begins anew on a fresh start and a “better you.” It’s the closing of one chapter and the beginning of a new, when ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 1-Dec-2013

The Many Faces of An Abusive Spouse and How to Protect Yourself

A young woman came to see me recently at the urging of a family friend who felt I could help. She was a successful financial professional, who had graduated from Harvard, was married to a physician and had one child. She explained that over the past ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 1-Aug-2013

Is Your Business or Practice up for Grabs in a Divorce?

You’ve spent countless hours working to build your business. You have an intellectual property law firm or pediatric medical practice or even a landscaping company. You’ve taken on loans and have worked more weekends than you care to ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 1-Jun-2013

Top Ten Reasons to Have a Prenuptial Agreement

A baby is on the way for Kanye West and Kim Kardashian, and if rumors are true, wedding bells may soon follow. Should they have a prenuptial agreement? Just ask Katy Perry, Madonna, and Kelsey Grammer why a prenuptial agreement is so important. But ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 27-May-2013

Prenuptial Agreement

Originally printed in New Woman Magazine, November 1988 S USAN AND JEFF MET IN LOS ANGELES. AFTER MAJORING IN film at UCLA, Susan had spent her 20s writing unsold movie scripts and working part-time in public relations. Jeff, with a Stanford MBA, had ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 6-May-2013

Divorce & Money - What is a Mother to Do?

Originally published in NEW WOMAN magazine in February 1991 Divorce doesn’t mean you and your children have to live in poverty. A leading divorce lawyer answers some common questions on how to safeguard your financial future. – SOCIAL ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 1-May-2013

The Finer Points of Spousal Support

This is, of course, not a real letter and certainly not from the real Kevin Federline, but I get questions like this all the time from husbands and wives wondering how they’ll be able to support themselves after going through a divorce. So what ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 15-Apr-2013

Premarital Contracts: Not Just for the Rich and Famous

Originally published in Woman's Day August 19, 1986 Marriage is still popular, but more and more women are now looking beyond romance to economics. And many are signing—even insisting upon—prenuptial agreements. No one knows exactly ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 1-Apr-2013

The Tax Implications of Divorce

The month of April can be one of the most worrisome and taxing times of year—literally. More so, a divorce can be one of the most emotionally painful ordeals a person can go through. Anyone who has ever gone through a divorce will tell you that ...

Posted By Lois Brenner 8-Jan-2013

5 Tips on How to Treat Children While Going Through a Divorce

With the holidays and 2012 in the rearview mirror, many of us have set resolutions and goals for ourselves for 2013 in the interests of happiness and personal development. For some, the attainment of those objectives involves the dissolution of their ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 8-Nov-2012

So You're Getting a Divorce-Does that Mean You Need to Fight in Court?

Going through a divorce can be one of the most emotionally painful things a person can experience. Two people once united by love or some semblance thereof are now divided due to infidelity, emotional or physical distance, mental or bodily abuse, and ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Sep-2012

Business Partnerships and Divorce

The strain of a divorce is usually an emotional time and an uncertain financial one. Even more difficult is the separation of assets for divorcing partners who own businesses together. Statistics from the National Federation of Independent Business ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Sep-2012

Divorcing? Get Your Financial House in Order

When considering divorce, one of the easiest things you can do for yourself is to keep your financial house in order and the way to do it is to get organized. Having your financial information stored and processed in a systematic manner will go a ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 20-Jul-2011

Are You Entitled to Rehabilitative Maintenance?

As a divorce attorney and mediator it is my responsibility to inform clients of what they are entitled to when considering a divorce. Women, in particular, don’t realize they may be entitled to Rehabilitative Maintenance. For those of you who ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 25-Jan-2011

Parenting Classes for Divorce

It is my goal as a divorce attorney and mediator to introduce my clients to all the tools necessary to see them through the difficult divorce process with as much support as possible. That is why as part of my evaluation of each divorce case, I ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Dec-2010

Divorce and Your Credit Score

Are you thinking about your New Year’s Resolutions and about making some changes in your life. If you are thinking about getting a divorce, your credit score may be the last thing on your mind, but you’d better think twice. Divorce can ...

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Nov-2010

Divorce Mediation - The Peaceful Alternative

As we approach the holidays, the end of one year and the beginning of a new one, many couples who are having difficulties in their marriage start thinking about making changes in the new year. For many couples that means-divorce. For couples that ...

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