Blog Posts in August, 2020 Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 31-Aug-2020 5 Signs You Are Married to Someone with a Personality Disorder Is your marriage surrounded by hostility, frustration, drama, and chaos? Are your efforts to improve the situation constantly ridiculed and shot down? As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can tell you there might be a lot ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 28-Aug-2020 For Millennials Divorce is a "Simpler" Affair! I have worked with quite a few millennial couples recently who have embraced their divorce with a maturity and dignity that is new to me. They enthusiastically embrace mediation because it is amicable, less expensive, and not quite as time consuming ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 26-Aug-2020 Co-Parenting During COVID 19 While Children Go Back to School Even with both parents living in the same home, co-parenting during COVID 19 has been a big challenge. Now consider co-parenting during a separation or divorce. This process is even harder. But you will get through it, and I’m here to help! ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 24-Aug-2020 Divorce Story! As a divorce attorney, and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you. Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 21-Aug-2020 6 Steps to End a Toxic Marriage Relationships that have unhealthy patterns like abuse, infidelity, addictions, and so on, are more common than you think. This is a serious problem, and its affects can be paralyzing. Lots of people on the outside often wonder why you stay in an ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 19-Aug-2020 7 Grounds for Divorce in New York During a consultation a spouse will often ask me about grounds for divorce in New York. There are seven grounds for divorce. Irretrievable breakdown was added in 2010 as a legal reason – making it possible for many more people to divorce. ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 17-Aug-2020 Is A Postnuptial Agreement Right For You? I met with a couple on Zoom recently who told me they wanted to know how a postnuptial agreement works. They decided a postnuptial agreement for their marriage of 15 years would be the perfect band-aid for their unhappy marriage. They weren’t ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 14-Aug-2020 BEWARE! It's Time to Divorce the Narcissist In Your Life! Aren’t we all slightly narcissistic? The answer is, “Yes.” There are various healthy traits of narcissism in many of us. But then there is the actual diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder. As a psychologically-trained ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 12-Aug-2020 Do You Need Help With Your Divorce Checklist? Divorce affects every aspect of your life. Asking questions important to you during your initial consultation with a divorce attorney/mediator is key to navigating your path to a successful divorce. Preparing for your divorce consultation is an ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 10-Aug-2020 What You Need To Know About The Divorce Process As a divorce attorney and mediator, I am often asked about the divorce process. After all, most of the time when a spouse calls me for a consultation, it is the first time they are getting divorced. As part of my consultations, I try to ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 7-Aug-2020 Who Can You Trust With Your High Net Worth Divorce? Divorce litigators want you to think your complex or high value estate divorce can only be fairly resolved by courtroom litigation. This is false. In fact, spouses with high net worth have a great deal to gain via mediation, as well as much to lose ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 5-Aug-2020 4 Dont's - If You Want Custody Getting custody of your children when divorcing can be a challenge. Most courts prefer a shared or joint custody arrangement. When a spouse wants sole custody, I often tell them that they will have to show having sole custody will be in the best ... Continue Reading Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. 3-Aug-2020 Thinking of Divorce During This Turbulent Time? Divorce is not something you planned for when you walked blissfully down the aisle. Imagine also having to manage your family and finances during this turbulent time surrounded by a pandemic. If you are thinking of divorce, now more than ever, ... Continue Reading